Does anyone else overcommit to tasks to prove they can handle things despite having ADHD? I find myself saying yes to nearly everything to show I'm capable, but it's leading to burnout. Just last month, I took on two extra projects on top of my usual workload. By the end, I was so overwhelmed that my performance suffered across the board. How do you manage to set realistic boundaries at work without feeling like you’re underachieving? Any tips for balancing the desire to prove yourself with the need to maintain your mental health?

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It wasn’t until reading this and thinking about it that I’ve realized, yes. I do in fact do this.

I struggle with balancing work life— I feel like I go all in on work and forget to worry about life and if I worry about life I stop caring about work…

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I have this issue as well. And the biggest thing that helped me, in the beginning, was my husband. He set boundaries for me. Now I have been able to make them myself. I also changed my career to a company that promotes work life balance. And TRULY doesn't want us thinking about work when not at work.

I also stupidity my sleep habits and provided optimal nutrition, allowing me to have more time in my day to complete my commitments without quality suffering.

If you are alone, try setting a weekly schedule, where you block out time, and stick to it. At first it may be difficult, but it will be worth it in the end.

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Not at all, i ask for appropriate accommodations to have more time to do my usual workload, i have nothing to prove to anyone

I think we have to let go about proving yourself. ‘We’ because I’m the same way. I’m also hitting my limit and it’s really affecting me. Now I’m exhausted, and can’t even muster the strength to go outside, despite it being the weekend.

Having a running list of active projects helps me keep things in perspective. If I already promised 4 difficult things, I shouldn't offer a 5th, because then I'm just asking to tank my professional reputation.

Getting good at know what it takes for YOU to deliver a given item WELL is key. Then just tell yourself that doing more is a trap.

Can't catch me! I'm going to deliver well or not promise at all.

Now if I could figure out how to apply that to friendships and my apartment...

Honestly I have done this too many times to count idk if it's my natural nature or the adhd

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