Anyone feel like self-control is more difficult on stimulants in general? Like reflecting back on things, thinking before speaking, holding out on pleasure activities

I’ve made it 5+ years in a NY M&A practice and have consistent exceeding expectations reviews. I’ve had a few mental breakdowns because of work during this time, but thankfully made it through. I’ve been in a near constant depressive/anxious state for family reasons for the last year and half, and am soon having my first kid. I’m scared shitless that I’ll spiral out of control both at work and at home if something doesn’t change soon. Any suggestions on how to keep this job and keep it together?

Rant: my boyfriend is so annoying with this diet! I GET IT. You want to eat healthy! But when you have your friends at our place every other weekend they order pizza and you devour most of 2 boxes! But when I want pizza or wings or burgers I have to hear a whole spiel. “Can we pick something healthier?” “You can order ___ but can I choose something else on the menu?” “I don’t knowwww” like MY GOD. Then if I order something for me he wants half or bites! Sick of it!!!

For those who had a successful pregnancy with ivf, do you remember when or if you had the symptoms? I am now 10 days post transfer and dont really feel anything except lazy and tired but that could also be from progesterone supplements.

When I get stressed I unintentionally start restricting and skipping meals. It’s not to lose weight (though I do get skinnier which I like), but more so because it feels good and helps my anxiety.

25M, unmotivated to work out because I’m so weak and scrawny. I can’t really develop a habit because I just get discouraged being the weakest person in the entire gym. I don’t really feel comfortable around free weights and I don’t want to waste a personal trainers time either.

Any advice to break this vicious cycle?

“Circumcision makes your dick look like it’s wearing a tailored suit. Circumcised is James Bond. Uncircumcised is James Out-On-Bond"

At the donor egg phase and just not dealing with it well. Having all kinds of regrets if I tried hard enough. Maybe should have ate better, tried all these different things. Did I do IVF too quickly? Some say IVF makes your eggs worse. Is this true???

To do an ERA or not before transfer is the question. My clinic said currently the recommendation is to only do an ERA with multiple transfer fails, but I’ve read about ERA’s for those with recurrent pregnancy loss as well. Anyone go through this experience?

Any NYC agency doing consumer healthcare / OTC? I’m so done with cancer, diabetes, conventions, charts and launches 😪

Been seeing a therapist for a while now and feeling worse than ever. Been having suicidal thoughts. Not sure what to do.

How do you approach a stinky middle school kid or their parents with hygiene suggestions? I don’t know how to politely tell anyone that they smell bad.

36 and my body cannot handle alcohol anymore!

Qualys is very bad company, nothing positive, only good thing medical insurance and 1 month np

Anyone successfully take STD or extended long term disability for final IVF procedure? I’d like to take 6 months, Destress before hand then go into extraction. Docs say if this doesn’t work they recommend I move onto other options so I want to give it a fair shot. My clinic will fill out fMLA / medical forms but not sure who ultimately decides the duration. Should I also consider other mental health leave alternatives? Thank you!

I’m really struggling with mouth clicks when doing voiceovers. I make sure to stay hydrated and not eat before recording. What else should I be doing?

Is anyone spending an abundant amount of time evaluating and tracking quarantine cases, attending internal Covid updates and other tasks associated with Covid at work ?

Any advice on how to improve embryo growth drop off rate? Just finished our second retrieval and I’m frustrated by how many dont make it to blastocysts. We have good fertilization rate through ICSI. Is it normal for about 25% of fertilized eggs to make it to day 6/7? Husband has low count & motility and i have endo, both 33

Been living in a luxury building for about a year and start noticing that I have a mild cough when I’m in the building. Thought it’s just something residual after my cold but then I went for a week out of town and it disappeared completely only to start again when I got back and stepped into my building. Anyone experienced anything like that? I’m not going crazy, am I?

In a depressive episode & having trouble staying afloat at work. Luckily I’m on the bench now, but worried I’ll fully drop the ball next week when I’m traveling and staffed again. Howd you break out?

How can I sign up to be a Moderna test patient for the vaccine?

Why are people not good at ending zoom calls? I feel like I’m always the person who throws in the closing statement (I.e, ok well sounds good is that all? Have a nice day! This was helpful thanks Karyn..looks like we’re at top of the hour already) 🤦🏻‍♀️

which firm would most value a supply chain background? mck?

What do most people invest in for their Roth IRA portfolio? I’ve heard target funds and ETF’s..which one is better?

How much are your biweekly paychecks after taxes, insurance, 401k contributions, etc. and how much of each paycheck do you tuck into savings?

Still using Ally Bank savings account, but the APY had dropped to .60%. Time to move. Any recs on personal savings account? This is my emergency “savings”

FIRE newbie here. Is it possible to reach FIRE with a special needs kid? Has someone done it? Are there any alternatives to fund therapies beside insurance?

I got offer as Associate (Technology) from pwc. Can I extend my joining date for 3-4 weeks?

Question: do guys like glasses on women?

I’m on the consulting side (FDD) and I’m curious if there are PE firms with good WLB. I’m happy with my pay, growth, and hours. PE interests me but I don’t understand why anyone would want to consistently work 65+ hours a week every week. What’s the appeal? Making double the pay? What’s the exit plan?

Offtopic: Please suggest some good noise cancellation earbuds.
Budget around 3k can go up and down if it's a good deal.

Hi all,

I am serving my notice period, I want to get released from the project. Is it possible to get released when serving notice period?

What is the CFM meeting invite sent by the leadership and SMs?

Best way to grow organically on social media? It seems that our engagement has taken a dive and nothing is working anymore.

Anyone having experience with opening a brokerage account for an organization (single member llc ideally)? I have a question regarding the set up.

Does anyone here browse YouTube videos for tips on running your practice? New legal software to try? Nuances in argumentation, deposition or trial skills, etc? IF so, how do you search for content? Do you have favorite channels you recommend (even if they happen to be yours)? We are thinking of starting a YouTube channel giving practical advice for practicing lawyers. We want to be value-added - and there is not too much competition in our state. Thanks for your thoughts!!

Standing desk people: do you get a mat or anything for your feet?

Anyone that is WFH but rents a small office space to work from?

I don't want to have to go to an office with coworkers, but I do feel like I'd be more productive getting out of home office a couple of days per week.

Feel the same?

Need to design a compensation framework for a small but growing professional services firm (consulting and marketing for farm and food businesses). Anyone have access to a sample framework or any tips? TIA

About to start Vyvance, when insurance approves the prescription… Traditional stimulants did not work for me. Heard good things. Fingers crossed 🤞🏽

Does anyone have good resources in finding a quality adhd coach? I’ve found tons of therapists who say they understand it, but few do. Is there a directory of good ones anywhere for adults working in a corporate setting?

Anyone noticed that with aerobic / cardio exercises it gets more difficult to focus? It is like my mind a TV and someone else gets the remote and goes through every channel every 30 seconds or so

My boss assigns projects with unclear expectations and provides no guidance on how to achieve them.

I've asked for help, and, to avoid a long post, she expects me to figure it out. Perhaps you go through this too, but when I don't have a clear guide on completing big projects, it paralyzes me because I don't know where to start. On top of that, I have anxiety, so "it has to be perfect".

How do you approach projects when your boss plays the "guess what's in my head" game?

Hey so like - newfound reason for my procrastination since I got on Ritalin - a tendency towards "putting things off so I can enjoy the hyperfocus later". When I just started taking the meds I was super effective for a few weeks but now my brain seems to be figuring out ways around the drugs 🤦🏻‍♀️ any ideas on how to not fall back into procrastination behaviours?

Just joined, I'm curious how often you've been a high performer but are told you're not consistent enough? But you haven't missed deadlines or anything, so what's consistency mean for you?

Quite a few have mentioned using whiteboards as a way of staying focused on important projects. If this method works for you, how do you lay out the info on the whiteboard? Would love to hear your methodology (or see a picture if you don’t mind sharing)!

Anybody else inattentive type? What are people’s strategies for getting up and getting going first thing? I can be laser-focused once I get on task, but it’s a real struggle to start my day. Any tips?

Any tips for organizing a bedroom, closet, dresser & bathroom? My teen has IADHD, and low executive functioning. Her room looks like a land mine. Clean clothes are mixed in with dirty, her desk is a disaster, she won’t let go of clothes she’s outgrown, drawers are open with clothes hanging out. A therapist said to close her door if we don’t want to see it but it’s more than that. She needs this important life skill & I don’t know how to help. Easier to organize w/o her but that’s not a solution.

For those who were diagnosed as an adult can you provide some insight into how you were able to obtain a diagnosis. I went to my primary care dr who referred me to another dr who specialized in mental health. He asked me about 5 questions before telling me I should see a neuropsychologist for an official assessment. The referral he gave me is super pricey and apparently isn’t covered by insurance. Is that normal?

Welcome to the community! We're just getting started so let's set a great tone from the get go.
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How do you get out of the burnout cycle? I’ve felt overwhelmed for a while and now I’m in the “can’t function at all” stage. It’s so hard explaining this to my manager because I already have a workload that’s lighter than others (not because of performance or my request). Any tips on how to get re-engaged, since the overwhelming feeling will come back?

What types of work accommodations can help people with ADHD? I am starting to believe 35+ of having not managed my ADHD has really negatively impacted me in career growth etc. I'm realizing a lot of things about myself are because of the ADHD. I want better for myself and family but 1. I don't enjoy the same things forever 2. Imposter syndrome and RSD make me believe it's acceptable to start over in new places at low salaries. 3. Typical college won't work for me. 4. I also can't relocate.

Stimulants and sweating! I’m going back to the office and never used them while in the office, I don’t want to look or be sweaty haha any advice? I also don’t want to look weird drinking 6L of water as I do in person

I work in sales as a coordinator and do a bunch of paperwork with customers online. I LOVE PEOPLE but dread going to work everyday (wfh 3x a week) because the environment is toxic. I just found out that the only positive manager on my team is leaving. I am spiraling. I have a BS in Health Science (no chemistry classes taken and minimal biology education). Where are people happy in their careers? What careers are best for young women with ADHD? Who’s hiring?

This couldn’t be more timely as I’m sitting in the waiting room after just being diagnosed 😆 welcoming tips for adjusting to Adderall!

What courses or certificates would you recommend for someone who wants to learn how software works from a top-down approach?

My main goal is to understand how everything is connected, and why something is needed where it is needed.

Stress is causing a massive flare-up of racing thoughts recently. I feel like it's been at least a week or two since I last was able to completely clear my mind. And if it's not random stream-of-consciousness mess, it's music. Ever had a song stuck in your head? Because I've had one for four days now. Driving me nuts. Anyone else struggle with this/have a solution?

Hey fellow ADHD professionals. Struggling with my focus and memory/retention. I takes notes, make lists, and this helps with getting tasks completed. But, for example, I cant recall someones name that was just given to me, or the name of a place. Any suggestions?

Btw this group is awesome!!

For anyone who has a consistent exercise routine can you explain if it has helped you manage your ADHD symptoms and all the different ways it has helped?