Does anyone still feel worthless and a loser even after applying to jobs? Like when I’m applying, I feel accomplished and productive but after I’m done, sitting around, I feel like a loser. I’m currently unemployed and have been for a while due to mental health issues. Any advice on how to not feel the way I feel?

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Society defines us by status and class. The first thing people ask when I meet them is what do you do, what's your race and what is your education. Its shocking. Its no reflection on you for being taught this is your value. So I've been trying to connect with people who see more to a person and I've found a few, it makes all the difference.

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Very insightful and good for you for actively changing your life script.

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I feel the same way

Sometimes you have to pick and choose from your own thoughts and decide, this isn’t a helpful thought to have right now. And move right along. No matter how much you might think it’s true in that moment. Etc. it doenst matter. If you catch it you say well that may or may not be true but it’s not helpful to think this way right now. And get up to do something else.

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