Don’t know what to do. Two weeks until the wedding. Having doubts and concerns about my fiancé. Think we may be on different pages, but we do have so much in common and love each other. Willing to compromise a lot, but it’s been pretty bad the last couple of weeks. all guests have been invited and booked their flights and hotels. All the money has already been paid. Is it better to get married and figure things out or is it better to cancel?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

Seen a few posts on people not having/hating on parents with kids. What is your rationale? I for one am excited to have 3 kids running around in the future! Anyone else?

I need friends 🥺

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Would you marry a man with ED if he was perfect otherwise?

Anybody single in their late 30s / early 40s given up on marriage? How do you see your life progressing? What do you do day-to-day to cope with loneliness?

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

Are there Christian men out there that don’t want kids?

I’ve 90 min for ELA & 6 kids. I need to teach phonics, curriculum (has 0 phonics), & goals & they need freq. breaks. Admin’s making me use said curric. Any ideas?? Small groups and rotate? TIA!

Trying to set family expectations and would love thoughts on 2 things. 1. How long after baby will I be ready for visitors beyond our parents? I’m thinking a few weeks. 2. Our 3 grandmothers are 1-3 hour flights away (3 diff places) and cannot travel. When will we be ready to take baby to see them? I’m thinking 4-6 months but that would also be flu/RSV season. Can’t predict the future but family is already talking about trips and I want to set expectations and do what is best for baby. TIA!!

Weird question alert: When did your daughters start “developing?” Noticing signs in my soon to be ten year old, which is a little concerning, as my sister has huge...tracks of land. Would rather my daughter didn’t have to deal with what I remember she had to. Anyone remember?

Anyone else stuck here without family? I'm in SF and my roommates are going home to their families tonight and i'm going to be alone, it's going to be a long 3 weeks..... 😭😭😭

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

Moms with three kids and on a reduced schedule: What is your reduced schedule, and does it work for you? If not, what would be your ideal schedule? Just had my third and not sure how things will work... two was manageable, but three feels difficult right now

I am a straight , but I kid you not…

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Moving to London in June for a permanent role. What's a good area to live in, friends? Looking for a 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom place ideally.

Hello! I know this is an advertising bowl but is there a bowl for recruiters in tech industry,

Any top tips for a systems design interview? Thanks in advance

What would you do if your bonus was less than $1,000 pre-tax?

I have a consulting/PE interview on Friday, please recommend consulting books or sites to read. Need to speak consulting language

What percentage of DDs can I expect in MBB PE practices? Took part in several recruiting events and HR said I would work also on other related project types, but not sure how common that is vs. DDs

Is anyone willing to send me a CV template? Btw, I just need a temple and it's not for consulting position. It's for a job at Intel!

Feedback needed. Given the current influx of interest rates and looming economic decline. Is it wise to purchase two new rental properties one a fixer upper in a thriving town, and the other needs minor fixes in a growing community. Both prop may have tenants that have had rental payments delinquencies in the past…. Part of the agreement is to remove all tenants.

Anyone read Quit Like a Women, by Holly Whitaker? Reading now and it’s making me consider extending dry January to 6 months, maybe a yr, or ever again...curious to hear if anyone else has read.

new to the bowl, just saying hi!

Why do I keep falling for women who live hundreds of miles away from me😓😓😓

Hey, so I’m going to my first 3% conference. I heard it’s usually white feminism x 100. But I was wondering what I should expect? Has anyone been.

Hi Fishes,

Is S&P planning to open offices?

Anyone starting to hear anything regarding salary increases due to inflation?

Hey fishes! I’ve recently been promoted to lead position however the compensation remains the same. I’m planning to not accept the offer stating the expectation for the lead role is higher than my current role. What do you think? Let me know your thoughts :)

I’ve been in tech sales for 20+ years. Have an opportunity to take a position at a tech company in Sales Enablement. Anyone have some insight into this type of role? Is it interesting, challenging, collaborative?
Thinking about coaching others in sales could be fun for me at this stage.
Would love some input as this is a new field unfamiliar with.

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

What is your total “wedding look” budget/est. spend? (Everything including dress, make up, jewelry, shoes, outfit changes, accessories, etc.). I have put so much emphasis on my looks (no regrets) and I actually just tallied up my spend and my head almost exploded. Frankly just seeking a little validation that I am not the only crazy person out there 🙃

Does anyone feel guilty about spending so much money on their wedding day?

On one hand I know it will be such a special day with all our family and friends. On top of that I feel like we hired incredibly talented people that will make the day awesome.
On the other hand, I feel like the costs keep adding up and while the our day is not putting us in debt I can’t help but feel a little guilt….

Fun question: what are the best and the worst wedding trends you’ve seen?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

I just got engaged on Sunday (!!) and my ring is just a little big. I’m reading online that most jewelers won’t resize a rose gold ring. Has anyone had any issues with this? I could go back to the family jeweler who designed the ring and would do it for free but the ring was designed in Michigan and I live in Chicago. Is it worth it to drive to Michigan to get it taken care of there?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

Tux budget NYC?

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Anyone have a wedding planner they really enjoyed in the DFW area?

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

I thought I set some boundaries with my wedding since my fiancé and I are paying for everything. Now I’m getting more comments about why we didn’t invite some long lost cousin or family member… I don’t want to go bridezilla on people but I’m starting to see how it can happen 😂

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

Have you talked about your wedding with coworkers? I made the mistake of saying I had to leave work a little early one day because I was going to do a tasting at my venue. That starts a debate on why one shouldn’t get married, how much wedding costs & what a waste it is, dresses are stupid because you only wear them once, etc. I haven’t talked about my wedding much, but I didn’t appreciate this. I ignored the negative comments and we moved the conversation along. Not talking about that anymore!

Hi everyone - We are thinking of changing our wedding photographer after unsatisfactory engagement photos and unsatisfactory communication (unresponsive after multiple attempts). We paid a $450 retainer which we know will be not refundable. However, we are not sure about other liability as we read our contract and found these 2 clauses (in comments). Please advise! Definitely not happy with her and would like to switch to another one but also want to make sure we make the right move. Thanks!

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.