Ever been asked to train your new boss after being passed over for their role? That’s my life right now. I was told I didn't have enough leadership experience, which is funny since I've been leading the team for weeks and things have gone well. I also got that I'm 'too valuable in my current role.' So I'm being punished for being good at my job? Idk how to move forward without feeling resentment about this.

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I was in this situation, except I was the one chosen for the leaderahip role and not others and consequently needed a lot of "onboarding" sessions with my direct leads so that I could get more plugged in (which was uncomfortable for me as you can probably imagine since youre having to train this person now). I actually felt like one of my directs could've potentially been better in the role because she already knew a lot about the work, but I later found out that she had weaknesses that her peers and leadership noticed despite being a super strong and smart IC. No one ever talked to her about these weaknesses though because her/our old manager loved her output. My advice: be humble and ask your decision makers what you can work on and improve to be considered for the next opportunity.

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Don’t train them

avoid it at all costs. Let them fail.

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The words of the master (me)

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That's right!!

Yes, a long time ago and I professionally declined. Perhaps that's why leadership went with someone else...LOL! I didn't take it personal, but if I am not good enough for the role, how am I good enough to train that person???

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If you get to the point where you're certain there's no road ahead for you, start thinking about moving on. Sometimes you can just get pigeonholed, people will only view you as being in the role you're in. If you think that's happening, you can try to change the perception. But it might also be good to see what else is available.

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Happened to me a few years ago. Senior management decided to promote someone they hadn't been able to promote on a previous occasion rather than the person with the best skills for the job and rigged the recruitment process so the candidate they wanted got the job.

My new manager was really nice and had a lot of experience from the area they had been working in previously, but sadly no idea of even some of the basics of what the team did, while I had over 16 years experience of the exact role. I was expected to train them up along with a new starter. My workload went through the roof and my mental health suffered.

I left the company 9 months later for a better paid job elsewhere in the same field. The incident has left a sour taste in my mouth for the previous company. Being able to 'vote with your feet' is a very good tactic as I know it caused a bit of a stir when I left and there were questions asked as to why I went. If you're still at your current employer, definitely look for opportunities elsewhere.

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This happened to me. I did ask for feedback and was given “this person has more experience in X”. I did my best to give the new leader background on why things are the way they are and started interviewing.

Ultimately new leader couldn’t keep up and refused to learn some of the business and I refused to help more. I deflected decisions back to the new leader because I wasn’t getting paid for that job. Other teammates started to leave and then I was moved into the role before I secured an external position.

The aspect of being too good to promote says that your management doesn’t do succession planning or understand how to grow people. Once you are in a leadership position, remember that and invest in your team. We all need more leaders like that.

I had to do this once, train my boss for a role I wanted and was doing while they searched for him. A few years later, I ended up getting the role myself, and I then understood that even though I felt ready, I was way too junior for the role at that time, even though I was managing/taking care of the team very well. Keeping things afloat is different than driving things forward. But I understand your frustration 100%. I had been pissed.

I went for a promotion years ago for new territory at JPM. Was passed up only because the guy they promoted was already in the NYC location. He came from a different business line and had zero clue what he was doing. They tried to get me to train this guy up and I flat out said no. You passed me up for this promotion and now you want me to train the guy? They didn’t respond to my question and also never asked me again. I think it clicked how dumb their request was.

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