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Everyday I think about quitting & how much I hate my job. When do I say enough is enough and quit? I have a family to support & a ton of student loans so it not like I can be unemployed. Just recently switched careers so it's unlikely I'd be able to find something better soon. I feel so trapped. Sometimes I have thoughts that if I'm seriously hurt I can take time off suddenly & have a real break but I know that's not good. (More in comments.)

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just came here to say, you are not alone. the trapped feeling is unbearable

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🤗🤗🤗❤️ So it sounds like you gotta hang in there and look for a new job? That's my position. Also considering changing category for a promotion and more money but having misgivings. 2020 was a wash and 2021 is looking like one too tbh. Don't believe the economy is improving and the job market getting better at all despite the great resigny. Sit tight and find some other outlet like exercise, etc etc. I've often been advised to decouple from work. Wtf that can mean in advertising 🤔🤷🏻‍♂️

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That's all we can do. Hang in there! Don't do anything stupid 🤔💪🏻🙏🏻

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I think like this all the time. What if I got hit by a car and didn’t have any life threatening/major injuries, but enough to get a couple month break? It’s not a great place to be, mentally. I wish I had a solution for you. I feel the same way. My SO was COVID laid off over a year ago and still hasn’t found anything. Sometimes I take showers just to cry and think about how much I wish I were the unemployed one, without the pressure of keeping it together for us. None of this will make you feel better, but hopefully it helps you feel less alone.

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I literally had that exact thought the other day. Like what if I "accidentally" just got hurt enough to take a few days off. Just a quick trip to the hospital kind of hurt. This does help to know someone understands.

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I wish 2020 was better and that I didn't take this job because I needed the money. I wish I had stuck to my original goal in the initial job search. I wish I hadn't settled for this because I really needed the money. I was actively avoiding applying for the job position I have but this came as a referral at a time when I was desperate. I think I just needed to vent but I am really struggling from bursting into tears all day every day.

Am here for you! I’m in a similar situation & after a dry spell found a good gig. But it’s nuts, I’m assigned to like 14 projects & it’s not really supervisory so like how do you know with precision what’s happening on 14 jobs? I’m so grateful but at the same time nothing makes sense and I want to constantly cry or quit.

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Kinda morbid and maybe bad advice but, does your company have a bereavement break policy? Can you lie about going to a funeral and just take some time off and reset?

Honestly I considered doing that but other than the fear it actually happening, it would be too complex to keep the story straight without having to explain it to my live in partner

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