Expecting my first child - any advice?

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Take as much time off as possible and prepare to be introduced to what love really is. Definition of happiness. End of selfishness.

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Doula, nanny, Amazon subscribe and save, Uber eats

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Lactation consultant / breastfeeding books & support (if planning on BFing)

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Top 3 decisions I made (now with a 10 week old)
1. Take full paternity leave
2. Purchased a SNOO bassinet
3. Hired a doula
Good luck OP. Enjoy every moment!

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Brace yourself... diapers are coming!

Figure out your priorities with your SO. Discuss distribution of duties, decision makers etc. and congrats!

Congratulations. I had my 1st last year... wasn't expecting this much work. Everyone told me but I guess I just couldn't imagine it was at this level. Save up like crazy. We outsource laundry.. have cleaners and still doing chores/errands till 10pm most nights. Take any help offered( grandma, family etc.)

It doesn’t get easier, it just changes. I have 3 boys: 16, 14, 11.

Curl up and prescribe crying silently. JK, we're expecting our 4th in a couple months. So just remember that others have done more than you.

Get sleep when you can. Take as much time off as your company allows. Figure out a schedule and try to stick to it.

Partner1 nailed it.

Also try not to drop the thing. You will of course, but try hard not to. Enjoy!

Try to prioritize as much time helping your wife and baby when you are around. Do you both work? Cannot emphasize how amazing having a nanny is.

We do both work but my wife will be going part time initially.

Start a 529 college savings plan now. Start it in your name and when your child is born, you can change it to them. For their first birthday or two, ask for gifts to be contributions to said 529 plan.

I do mine through Vanguard and have had a good experience. Depending on your state, there could be tax advantages, but many states do not.

Should have said earlier - UK based, but a S&S ISAwill be created. :)

The Junior ISA scheme is worth going into for the compounding, but bear in mind that the money is COMPLETELY untouchable until the child is of age. Not saying don’t do it, but use it knowing there’s absolutely no flexibility if those funds are needed sooner.

Join your local NCT class - not for what you will learn, but for the support network you will gain (especially Mum).

Just say yes. Mom always right

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