Friend wants to join consulting for the pay. I don’t believe she has the aptitude or energy for it. We worked together in a much slower industry, and even there she complained of being overworked. I’ve sent her resources to polish up her resume and links for roles but she’s insisting on texting/long phone calls asking silly questions. Today she wants a resume review over zoom! She comes without having done her homework. How do I tell her I’ve given as much as I can? How do I decline referring?

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I would just let her get rejected and shrug later

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Minimal effort, let ‘em throw it in the pile, see what happens 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve gone thru the same song and dance with multiple friends. You’re either in it 100% regardless of their shenanigans (because you’re their friend and you genuinely want to help) or you draw a hard line in the sand and tell them exactly how you said it - you’ve done all that you can / are willing to do.

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Appreciate knowing I’m not the only one. 🥲

I’ve also gone through this with a few friends all who went straight to corporate finance / adjacent - they see the salary progression and the fact that 4 years post undergrad I’m making almost 2x them and they want to jump over.

I try to emphasize some hard facts: consulting doesn’t care about industry experience (mostly), I work more hours than they do, expectations/stress in consulting is likely higher than their role, etc. harping on some of the negatives. If they still want to attempt I’ll offer to review resumes/coach on cases IF I think they’re a good fit.

Some of them are not good fits. I’ve let them get declined. We’re still friends! At the end of the day I’ve consciously stopped talking about work/money as much as I did when I was fresh out of school.

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