Gf doesn't seem to make friends easily. She wants to. How do I help?

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Op same boat. I don't get it shes awesome but just can't seem to make friends. Super hard because I can't hang out with mine without making her feel bad.

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Same. Except mine doesn't seem to really care. Sucks, because one of the things I enjoy about dating someone is the expanded social circle.

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Introduce her to people you know. Double date with your friends. Engage in more group activities.

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Try Bumble BFF! Ive noticed its for people trying to make friends (some just moved to a new city, new job, etc)... The description can help you find out if you have similar interests. This helps if she's not into making friends out of the blue (gym, etc).

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Get her drunk. Easier to make friends that way

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If she is really pretty, other girls are intimidated. The most gorgeous women are often the most lonely

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I'm the same way. I think it's because I work long hours and the friends I have are in more traditional roles (teachers) so they don't always understand when I can't hang out -- or what I even do.

I've been working on finding new friends in specific places I spend time at lately -- like new workout buddies at the gym or new volunteer friends at nonprofits I commit time to.

I also don't always care; but as you get older it's nice to have people around that share things you like, understand what you do, or can afford trips you can afford.

EY1 -- A) So your advice is that she should...be less pretty?
B) Please stop spouting that "girls are intimidated by gorgeous women" bullshit; it simply isn't true.

Sorry you don't appreciate facts

Is there anything they can do to be more approachable?

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