Had an associate of mine recently confront me and say he has a crush on me. Told him nope and that would be very unprofessional. He has reassured me that this won’t impact our working dynamic but lately there’s been a lot of pushback on any direction given to him or the team. I’m growing concerned he is holding something against me.

How should I approach this?

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You have to disclose that to HR. Just to CYA

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What exactly would I disclose to HR?

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Very helpful thank you!

Does anyone else see the increased pushback? I would maybe ask someone trusted if they've noticed it too and if so when they started noticing it, so that you have some backup.

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Also consider if this is his usual pushback rate and before he was simply trying to not pushback cuz he had a crush on you. You probably should still talk to HR, but knowing where exactly you are is good for you.

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Do you have documentation of him confronting you?

Unfortunately I do not have documentation on the event at this time.

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