For anyone in this bowl. How crucial is it for you to have a formal dining room separated from the kitchen? My son and daughter-in-law are buying a house for their future family and I'm trying to convince them a formal dining room looks better and makes things less chaotic in the kitchen, especially with kids. Am I out of touch? Or is it still important?

Brought my gf sushi take out to her house when she got off of work. She didn't like the meal I got her and started to eat the roll i got for myself. She noticed I wasn't eating so I told her I ate before rather than tell her she was actually eating my dinner. She's now mad at me that I "lied" even though I did it so she wouldn't be embarrassed. Who's in the wrong

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

Salam. 23M here - all my life I’ve had my back on our faith - never really prayed but had imaan (I guess). After bouts of depression from girl problems (🙄), issues within immediate family, being disappointed expectations I had for myself, etc. I’ve been working on bettering my situation over the years. Faith is the only area where I think I need more guidance. Having trouble relating to friends or family about this. Anyone else been thru something similar? How have you connected back to Islam?

Slowly coming to the realization that I’ll be single forever for personal reasons - 40 M no kids. Trying to figure out how to take care of myself in my 60s-90s and what to do now to be as self sufficient as possible. Any advice would be welcomed.

In a serious relationship for the first time since starting with the firm. Advice on how to balance career and personal life? I promote to manager this fall and want to succeed in both realms

I know it's going to be different for everyone, but at one point after your first child did you go back to work? Thinking of kids, and trying to wrap my head around what's normal, and what to expect with budgeting post delivery. Wife says 6 months after regardless of parental leave to recover. Then she wants to ease into it with part time work. Thoughts?

Looking for a husband 🤣

Anyone have a primer on working with children? From a business affairs perspective?

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

I’m keep getting flashbacks from my previous relationship. I want to report him for domestic abuse/date rape charges but I don’t know if it’s a wise idea esp after a whole yr

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

Does anyone regret having a second kid? Did it make working in advertising completely untenable?

How have you dealt with anti-vaxxer friends? I have one and I’m not mad or angry at them. I’m just disappointed that I’ve associated myself with someone like them. 😔

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

My partner is a cancer survivor, and I brought her in to talk to my kids. I had her stay for one of our GSA meetings and did something I have never done before--I answered questions about our journey together. It felt very liberating, but still scary.

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Sometimes it feels like customer service is just trying to calm down a large, angry toddler.

Pregnant with our first and my husband was wondering - any resource recs for soon to be first rind dads? Either talking about pregnancy, baby, or both?

Need advice! +50 yo female with 20+ years of experience in Tech. Customer Success, Tech Support, leadership, marketing, gym, customer and internal training and product development. I am currently in a CS role but would like to use more of my skills. What’s something I should consider? I feel like a have many great years to offer to a company still but ageism is certainly a thing!

Hello Folks,
How is Siemens energy to join if I compare it to Cognizant. Both are offering almost similar CTC.
I’ve on-site aspirations in near future.
Factors to consider WLB, learning opportunities.
YOE 8
.Net Full stack + Azure

Hi Fishes,
Where is LTI located in Mumbai?
And if I request can i get any location to work in Mumbai?

What are the benefits that mercer gives excluding package?

If that Humboldt park gator ends up being a Crawl (2019) activation, I’m going to be PISSSSSED

After you moved in-house, how did you get more comfortable reviewing contracts or counseling on issues you weren’t super familiar with? I was very specialized at my law firm and took a similarly specialized role in-house….but I still get requests to mark-up types of agreements that I never touched at my firm. I’ve been trying to find CLEs to get up to speed, but I’m wondering if this is generally something that gets more comfortable with time…

Our company is a small company with 80-100 employees in India, what the company does is ask us to track every single minute of our day, from getting into the office to what time we got up for lunch, tea, etc. for everything we have to put a log, do you guys think this is a healthy process for a company to grow? All the employees be frustrated that they have to go to office regularly and finish 9 hours somehow, a measured break time is also allocated.

Laid off. Applying to jobs. Besides networking, what are the top job search platforms/websites? There’s LinkedIn, indeed, monster and Glassdoor. Anything else I’m missing or which is the “best”?

Best consulting firms to work for in Hartford CT area?

I'll switch to a startup as the only data engineer and will closely work with all the Head ofs + the CTO.

Any advice/books/... on stakeholder management at that level? Especially when things fail/discussing budgets/new hires etc.

Whenever I am trying to apply for job from TCS i begin portal it gives an error like
'You cannot Apply against other jobs as you are a Placement Agency Referred candidate '

how can I fix this?


PLEASE HELP 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Genuinely feeling subpar here. I can’t point to one thing I’ve done well on this project. I don’t think I should even be a manger to be honest. I’m not good enough to work here.

What is element require mitigation in a background check?

Hi all, is it completely work from office for Tiger Analytics, or WFH is also allowed? I'm in NCR and don't wish to shift anywhere else.

What band can be offered to a person with 11.5 yrs of QA experience? Also what can be the roles in that band?

When does Natwest initiate employee onboarding after background verification?

Does it happen in the last week before joining?

In my market, you have to waive financing and mortgage contingency to even be considered. Annoyed this is now common practice. 😞

Hi all! First post here: my husband and I are thinking of getting solar panels and battery storage but have some sticker shock (would require a sizable loan). Anyone in a similar boat and how has the experience been?

Is it wise to buy a home now with high interest rates in nj or would it be wise to just wait and see? Looking to buy a house in central NJ

I am brand new to the process and keep hearing conflicting reports. Should I be waiting out the market? Or is this the perfect time to buy if you can? I don't trust all these realty sites telling me I should buy now.

Thinking about using my VA loan in a few years. Any advice?

What are some of the things that were a MUST when buying your first home and what were some things that you were more flexible with and why? I’m having a discussion with my partner about what we absolutely need and what can be worked on later. Also, any regrets?

What do you wish you knew before you began the home buying process for the first time? What would change if you could go back to the beginning of the process?

When do you know you've toured enough houses and should pick one from the list you've got? I've seen probably 15-20 homes, and put in one offer. How many homes should you tour minimum, and how many offers did you put in before you closed? I don't want to be too hasty and choose something just because, but I also think continuing to see homes isn't really making my decision any easier. Thanks!

I went from making $70k the last 7 years to now started a new job a month ago making $130k plus $10k bonus every year, and $60k in RSUs. I have $70k in my 401k and around $50k in savings. Want to get out of the Silicon Valley which has been home my whole life and buy in TX or AZ a ~$400k house. I have about $20k in student loans which my dad has offered to pay (wants to make up for never supporting me) but I’m waiting to see what Biden decides for student loans. Is this feasible? Credit is ~615

Hi! European here who moved to New York and trying to buy a condo apt. Any tips on the mortgage process, any good providers here with good rates and no crazy costs? Condo is $450K and putting $200K down if helpful

Any recommendations for a good water softener/filtering system which keeps the overall salt level low post-softening ?

What’s a fair calculator to know your affordable mortgage?

One online have a wide range in what’s considered “affordable”
Pre bonus and equity I earn 110k/yr in Wash DC.
I’ve seen 33% net income, but honestly $1650/mo CANT even get a 500sqft condo on rent.
30% gross is $2750/mo 😱
Others say I can afford 600k houses but that seems irresponsible and ridiculous.
My current rent is $1750 for a small 1bd1ba (cheap) but I’m sacrificing my safety in my neighborhood. No frills apt.

Is buying fancy condos with high HOA(>$1k) worth it?

I’m really discouraged. My after tax / after 401k contributions etc. take home pay is $6,500 monthly. I have $60,000 in savings / stocks for a down payment but even looking at a $550,000 home, my monthly payment would be about $3,400 from the calculators I’ve been using. Is that too high?

So discouraged that houses where I live are about 50% higher than what they were 2 years ago, and now interest rates are around 5.25% for my credit score. This is like a 1750 sq foot home

Looking to purchase my first home…yes at 47 years old…single family for me and my 4 daughters. Need a good mortgage with a low interest and a good program for teachers. In Northern California

My partner bought a new truck earlier this month. We’re hoping to joint-purchase our first home next spring. Is there a “best” time to get pre-approved for a mortgage? When should we start the home buying process?

So far we’ve kept our head in the realtor apps to see what the market is doing.

Rent just went up, pressure is on!

I'd like to buy, but the market is absolutely atrocious currently

Plan is to purchase some time after 2 years or so. Primarily to save up for a larger down payment.

Here’s my plan of attack:
- $30K saved right now ($20K in IBonds and $10K cash)
- $90K saved by July 2023
-$130K saved by 2023 and target a $800K home

Location: Suburbs of Boston, MA