Does anyone share the feeling of wanting more lawyer friends in their circle? Sometimes it’s nice to talk about anything besides the law and work; yet, other times, I crave talking to people who share similar experiences and can bounce case ideas and strategy, vent about opposing counsel and Judges, etc...you know, people who just “get it”.

Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

For young professional women out there - how many of you think you might not want to have kids in the future? Generally curious, yes I’m youngish,male (25) but I never envisioned having kids. I come from a more conservative area where everyone does have/want kids. So interested in seeing what a percentage breakdown would look like especially within consulting - thanks!

Anybody taught “A Long Walk to Water” for 6th grade? We just adopted it and I need some suggestions to get my kids to understand the whole new culture it introduces to them.

I’m currently struggling with my friend group. I’m a transplant to my current city and ended up making friends with my coworkers (who were also transplants). Now I’m regretting this as I don’t feel like the friendship is deep and things seem competitive. I feel like I have no friends and my real friends (from HS and College) are in a different state and have their own lives. Any advice on dealing with having no real friends where you live?

Where’s the best place to live if you’re looking to secure an entry-level position working in PE? Don't have a family, really kind of willing to try anywhere at this point.

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

Have a 2 year project for Romania which will be extended, what are the Pro's and Con's to move there?
Also need to decide if i need to take my wife and 5 year old kid there...
Any links and suggestions please..

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Would you recommend Sedona during Christmas or San Diego during Christmas with a 1.5 year old? Entertainment, safety, meaningful experience-focused.

Sedona will be much colder, possibly snowing/icy and will be hiking, hot tub, enjoying the scenery focused. San Diego will be beach, enjoying scenery focused. Both Airbnb options look beautiful. Will also have 60 year old grandparents joining

I'm a US citizen living abroad I applied almost 11 months ago for my spouse. Married for years, kid. I wait and wait. It seems this will take 2 years, maybe more. I feel trapped. On one side the US system demands I work and domicile in US, the other side says families should be prioritized to stay together. My spouse has had enough of the process. I feel trapped abroad and locked in a dysfunctional system. We're just in limbo, it's depressing

I’m keep getting flashbacks from my previous relationship. I want to report him for domestic abuse/date rape charges but I don’t know if it’s a wise idea esp after a whole yr

Moving to Philly Nov 1, just signed a lease in Queen Village. Coming from LA where I was part of a volleyball group and had a lot of options at the beach. Suggestions on making friends and being active (while still being respectful of covid rules & health of all)? 36 F

AITA: My friend keeps asking me for financial advice. I set up a budget for her and have her concrete advice. And I field all of her investing questions. But still, she continues to be reckless with her money. She’s 42, single (no kids), and making $100k+ and is still living check to check.

I don’t want to waste my breathe on helping her since nothing seems to be getting through to her. AITA?

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

I feel old and tired with all the family responsibilities since I was a teenager. Often I feel exhausted emotionally and mentally and then I pick myself up to move forward as I don’t have an option to quit. Who can I blame? None. 😢

What’s the going rate for an implementation manager with 4 years of service. Primarily in the PBM world

Hi All, currently considering a role in the Health and Public service team. Just wanted to know the expectation for working in the London office? This would be my base, but would require a lengthy commute for me.

Can anyone tell me if virtusa is providing insurance to parents and how much , please it is an urgent

If you wold like some assistance with classroom management or even managing your owe children, check this out this resource.

Starting a new job in Pyrmont in January. Where should I live? I'm a single female in my early 30s, looking for 1BR ~$500/w. Ideally somewhere near the water/beaches.

Been doing some research and Pyrmont is a pain to get to. I'm new to Sydney so any advice is much appreciated!

I got the offer from TCS, just checking as I have now another offer in hand and thinking if TCS can revise my offer.
Does TCS revice the offer after accepting the current offer letter?

Hi , I have offer from Embitel technologies-16L
UST blueconch-20L
I m looking for product based company actually
In case i don get anything, which is better option to join in terms of work life balance and learning curve …Its not only about package

What is it like working at redant labs..I don't know much about this company...does anyone know if it is okay to accept an offer from redant labs.
Also I have an offer from Wipro.. should I join wipro or redant labs..both same salary

I am having offer from Tejas network and Radisys. Which one should i join?
YoE - 11 years
Radisys is offering more.

Hi All,
I am bit confused currently. Please help me with genuine suggestions.I am currently working in TCS since 7 years and TCS was my first company. TCS is giving me 6.25lpa. Now I got an offer of 16lpa in CTS for Automation Testing role. But once I started talking to friends i got to know that one of my frnd has recently been fired from CTS last year due t unavailability of project. Now i am scared as I m single child of my parent and i have to pay emi and handle my household. Please suggest

I am on a student visa and looking for a job that can also sponsor my H1 B visa
I will really appreciate your help fellow fishes

Hey IBMers/ex-IBMers,

What is the designation hierarchy in IBM GBS for someone joining as "Advisory Technical Services Specialist" at "7A" band?

Like I would like to know what will be the next designation/band once for me if I get promoted?

YOE: 6 yrs.
Tech Stack: Testing

Thank you in advance!

Hi Fishes, I want one information. If a person serving notice period of 90 days, gets released from the project and comes to bench.
Do IBM decrease the notice period to 30 days for such employees?

Longest you ever waited for an offer letter? I’ve met with a total of 5 people including the partner in charge and accepted the verbal. It’s been a little over two weeks since hearing back. They touched base with me a couple times saying it needs approval but starting to lose hope.

Alright I gotta say it.. charlottes gym scene is terrible. Where do people go to workout?

Best way to go about getting contract work for new solo/startup? Should I just ask around the area for people doing that type of work and see if they have anything?

Started my law firm this month. Have a few of-counsel positions and want to do mostly litigation (civil and commercial in NY). Besides word of mouth and networking, have any of you found any websites or services that generate legitimate leads?

Which practice area has the most amount of room for creative problem-solving? (And enough $$)

Anyone have recs for best tax law training resources?

Are there any real estate attorneys who have gotten into the title insurance business? What does that look like? Do you still carry on a private practice on the side?

Has anybody opened a residential real estate law firm? What are the margins and hours like? Thanks!

When potential clients tell you they’ll hire your firm but they want to be 100% reimbursed from you if you aren’t able to get them the outcome they want - how hard is it not to laugh?! 🤦🏽‍♀️🙄

Has anyone used a coaching service for their firm? If so, any recommendations?

Managing attorneys in small firms - how much do you make?

I'm in South Florida. Currently a 6 year associate at a small firm (~12 attorneys, 55 staff). Making a move towards Managing Attorney position that they are considering hiring from outside the firm for. I'm going to make the case that they should promote from within and give me the position. I'm objectively a good candidate for it. Question is... what's a good salary for that position? What do you make? Thanks.

Anyone practice DUI in Orange County, CA? Please dm me. TIA

Has anyone received equity as contingency comp? I have a potential client with a founders dispute. He doesn’t have cash, and the other founder ripped him off and is now running the company. He wants to sue for equity and wants to pay me with whatever equity he wins. I’ve never done a deal like that. Is that even enforceable? CA law. The startup is actually quite promising.

Solos - what does your day look like? Do you work traditional hours? Do you take breaks during the day for personal things such as errands and working out?

Does anybody have a good guide or resource they can point to in regards to show clients how to organize their documents for our firm? A lot of time is wasted here going through discovery documents we receive from clients because the docs are disorganized and not annotated - it just becomes a whole scavenger hunt and it’s eating into our time like crazy.

Any mid-level associates in the Sacramento region looking for a litigation role at a chapter 11 bankruptcy firm? We have a job opening up and are looking for someone with corporate bankruptcy experience.

Does anyone run a business in addition to their firm? I’m a solo and I’m doing pretty well with about 60-70 billable hours a month. Though that leaves a lot of downtime. Curious if anyone has any second businesses that require about 20 hours a week. Not looking for passive income or franchise ideas though.

I work at a small, 3 lawyer firm. One of the lawyers is not barred in the state we practice. Because of this, the managing attorney has been having him draft motions and other legal documents and use my name and bar number and having me file them because I will have to appear in court for the matter. Is this normal? I am not provided time to review the materials before I file them so I end up working longer days because I am nervous to file something using my name and bar number.

I'm on a contract and asked if they wanted to continue their anwser was yes but we need to check our budget. I didn't hear back about a full time offer and just applied around well why do I feel guilty about interviewing with competitors when they haven't given me a writen offer?

How do firms give bonuses to associate attorneys? Quarterly, monthly, annually? What is a bonus based on? Money recieved, billable hours, etc?

I'm looking to set up a bonus structure for a new associate.

Anyone ever use “solo practice university”? Are the classes actually helpful? Is there a value here? Thanks.

Hi. I’m in need of advice and encouragement. I’m currently working as a public defender(2nd year) but I would love to pursue a solo private practice. I would like to leave the public defender because I am ready to make more money and I am no longer feeling the fulfillment I once felt. I have a family and work-life balance is a priority. What is a good way to gain experience in other areas of law as a solo practitioner? What areas of law are best for maintaining a work-life balance?