So my brother doesn't talk to me for 6 months.   (I had offered my lake house guest space to my cousin who said yes instead of my brother who didn't know if he could come nor when he might know if he could come, how unfair of me).

On Thanksgiving day mom arrives and tells me that brother might come by in an hour.  He had ignored my invite weeks ago.  (Uh ok, sure).


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The lack of compliments or questions is usually a reason why I don’t pursue dating someone, FWIW. Sorry your holiday was stressful.


Yikes. Has he always been a flashy jerk? My gut instinct says maybe drugs are involved as he sounds shot out of a cannon so coke/meth. Maybe a reaction to getting divorced but seems like he’s quite unstable and unhappy. I mean, bar fights? At his age? Hope your Christmas goes smoother.


Thanks. Wife is insistent that he's always been like this. We're prepared to exit Christmas quickly if we must. His kids will be around so I'm hoping for a more muted event. We'll see.

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He arrives dressed for a night out, talks loud and nonstop. Every sentence uttered is either about how much money he earns, has, is hiding from his soon to be  exwife or made on crypto or meme stocks (hint its not actually an impressive amount.) A few sentences were about bar fights or tinder sex dates or schemes to make money.

He doesn't eat or ask a question once, not a word of how nice the table looks.  I might have asked a question if he stopped speaking once.

He leaves an hour later to meet friends at the casino but first shows me a stack of bills he has with him.

We still can't figure it.  This was supposed to impress me? It was closer to the opposite. Wife and I can't stop saying "what was that?!"

Anyway hope your Thanksgiving was less 'entertaining' than mine.

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