How do people feel about meeting friends and family when you are with someone? Personally it’s never worked out for me. I really hate meeting someone’s parents it’s just awkward. Having to pretend to be super nice and perfect. I also loathe meeting a woman’s friends, it just doesn’t interest me. I’d rather avoid social circles and families and just keep the focus on us. I don’t mix partners with friends either bad idea, never worked out for me in the past.

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If you are secure in who you are and what you are bringing into your SOs life then there shouldn’t be an issue with meeting the people closest to her.

If you’re hiding something or have motives that you know the people in her life who love her would find problematic, this feeling you have makes sense.

Major red flag if someone only wants to be with you in isolation from your tribe.

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This post gives hook-up vibes/low commitment. You don’t have to pretend… but if you don’t care that’s another story. I’m usually friends with partners already and my parents naturally care about who I spend time with and am influenced by. My parents and friends have enough going on than to make my dating life harder. My experience—my goal is to have a trustworthy partner who will have my back, so if they aren’t willing to show their face to the other people who care about me, that tells me that something is holding them back from embracing me in their life. This changes if people are no contact with family, bad friends, etc

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Good luck! You don’t have to be best friends with their friends. Take the weight off! Quality shows over time.

“I loathe meeting a woman’s friends” yikes lol

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I echo what others have said. If your relationship doesn’t work outside of this limited bubble you’ve created, it wasn’t going to last anyway. Family and friends are an inevitable part of being with someone. Also, people don’t need to present themselves as perfect. Be yourself.

I had an uncle who was absolutely himself and everyone in my family didn’t like him. But he was my aunt’s husband and we could see that they were a solid match. They don’t need to like you but they will be around sometimes so might as well meet them, at least for your partner’s sake.

This is a huge red flag in a committed relationship
It’s about your partner: meeting the people they care about, and making sure you build rapport with them, because it makes it easier for your partner, not because you like it

Yikes lol. It’s one thing to have anxiety about meeting family, but ‘loathing the woman’s friends’ sounds like you hate women in general and that you want to isolate your gf. Please go to therapy

When I met my wife, we had both been through the ringer with previous relationships. Both her parents were dead, and she had gone no contact with siblings and extended family. So, I had no problem meeting her best friends, who were already married with kids. We had similar interests, and their kids were thrilled that I could play Xmas songs on their toy instruments. So I passed the test.

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