How do you deal with a female in a management type role who treats you differently than your male coworkers? And by differently I mean way harder on you.

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Just do your job and treat her professionally. She's not a friend, she's a colleague.

Over time she should trust you and it won't feel as tense.

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I would address with her the things she does that you feel she is being too “hard on you” about. And find out why. And I would leave out any comparisons with anyone else.

She might be giving you more challenging work or feedback because she thinks you are better or more capable.

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Bite the bullet. Put up with being under her thumb. Wait for your annual review where she might say something like “I’m doing this to just coach you to perform at the next level” but something about the message will lack substance as a firm explanation. And she might even insinuate that you are promotion material but no further discussion. Later, you’ll find out her harsh demeanor had more to do with her own unresolved emotional issues and you may trigger them. Then when she leaves the company, you’ll be promoted to her job … after you spent a year interviewing frantically trying to get out of the company (not that this happened to me …)

I honestly left a job because of this.. I out performed my male peers but there was clear favoritism and they were the ones that got the promotions

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