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Hi guys ,
I am in a US project in Accenture.We have long calls in the night timings. My other teammate has backed out saying she won't attend any calls as she got some medical condition so she won't attend long calls which extend till 9:30.Other teammate is a junior.The managers are expecting me to join all the calls.No help I am getting. And they all being Tamil, I think some partiality is going on between them.Even our onsite lead is of no use.She expects me to attend long calls.
What should I do .pls suggest?
Every partner that I work with
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My last working day was 11th Nov and I submitted my asset to TCS location and got the Initial release letter as well. Later on 17th or 18th of Nov, I got a message from TCS that they have sent the Packing material through Vendor, please accept it.
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I say this with compassion as a fellow assertive woman - if you're told you are aggressive every place you work, there may be something about your messaging that isn't landing well. If you have any trusted friends or colleagues that would be willing to be very candid with you, I would solicit that feedback.
I got similar feedback at the start of my career and initially I was very defensive about it for the same reasons you list here. However, I learned how to navigate and apply pressure more strategically while still being true to my assertive nature.
Initially, I felt the same. I took a look and realized my messages were coming across too bluntly, which allowed others to find different tones. I'm at a new company now, which I have made sure to double and triple check my emails before sending to ensure there are no undertones. I've had much more training, including in behavioral based leadership and emotional intelligence which has allowed me to be more cognizant of my communications. This incident was of no fault of mine. I've allowed two neutral parties (male and female) to read the correspondence between myself and another male manager. Both concur that the other manager took my email the wrong way, and with no merit went after me with full aggression. But instead of that manager being asked to consider his tone when addressing others, I was told to watch and think how my email could have been perceived.
I had a similar issue where a partner took issue with my tone and sent me a page and a half of career advice after I apologized for how she interpreted my email.
In some cases, you can't win. If you've done the digging necessary to make sure you're not the problem, then there's just nothing you can really do. If it persists, you can look into going to HR.
HR is there to protect the org...not her.
“It's a man’s world”.......not anymore. Things have changed. Keep doing you, don't ever stop. F them
Is it just from one company or group? Changing firms may fix it. At my current office we have a core group of straight forward, strong women and I have found my tribe. I don't need to put heart emojis in my emails anymore to soften my message lol
Every firm I've worked at has been this way. I continually find myself working in male dominated workplaces, which is probably the problem.
I’m not sure if that has anything to do with your gender. I think it’s simply mastering the Art of the written word, and being able to say f you with a smile in a very pleasant way is a learnt talent. At the same time, in today’s society being respectfully verbose is almost unnecessary. Yes, people cross ethical lines every day. But, kick it old school and surprise your targeted recipient with assertive well versed yet Underhandedly blunt camouflaged “go fuck yourself” so that your not belittling or jeopardizing your character, and keeping a strong work.
Give me an example if you would. Perhaps, recent event, what did you say describe the outcome? I am happy to assist, and I’ll rewrite it in a way to get you, put across without conducting yourself in an inappropriate manner. Staying a lady while collecting their balls as a trophy.
FYI I don’t mean to come off as offensive toward any gender this approach can work on anyone. And if you feel that the last part was a bit vulgar, I apologize that is my charming personality showing through, I’m off the clock.