How does everyone respond when their kids ask them about their service? I keep trying to change the subject when it comes up 🫤

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I tell them the truth when asked. Why would you hide anything from them.

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I had it relatively easy time in the Army. Smooth ish deployment just repairing helicopters. Nephew has asked about it. Then one day he said he wanted to be an Apache pilot. At first I was like “oh heck yeah little man” immediately followed by “dear god no, anything but a helicopter pilot”

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You should both take a look into driving vs flying mortality rates. While military aviation is definitely less safe than civilian, it might be comparable to driving. And pilot is definitely a contender for coolest job in the military.

Depends on their age and what they’re asking. It doesn’t need to be a secret but they obviously don’t need to know many details, and changing the subject probably isn’t the ideal approach. But I get that it’s awkward and probably feels like a lifetime ago that you might have mixed feelings on. I have a 7 year old who has seen things on the news or pictures of me or people mentioned my service which have prompted questions from her, but they’re super high level questions which I give fluffy answers to.

Why do you feel this way about that conversation?

The Truth.

I always liked the “my daddy kills bad guys for Jesus” bumper sticker that the recon guys have

I deal with this so so much as my ex is active and my first born came when I was exiting. They like forget I had any affiliation, in spite of my office walls and random military memorabilia. They see my ex in that life and, though she does make it her whole identity (story for a later day), they think it’s the thing to do. They don’t understand my work as a consultant.

When my oldest asks or goes, “That’s right dad I forgot, what did you do in the Army again?” I just say, “Daddy jumped out of planes and hunted for bad guys.” Normally, he goes “cool” or “So not like mommy?” and I get to say “Yep” or “Yea but Dad wanted to do other things instead” and it passes from there. Hope that helps.

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