Anyone here downshift in life post service?

Feel like I've been going full bore for the past decade and literally have no problem continuing the trend. Like I could just keep marking milestones and grinding or whatever until I die.

Wondering when if anyone else felt similar and decided to pull back and do something more relaxing. What was the catalyst, what are you doing, and are you enjoying it?

I'd considered taking up a 9-5 somewhere but not sure if thatd wear off fast.

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I had a crazy journey post service. Took a year off and went to Europe, Asia, and Africa. Started and finished college. Worked on a sales team, then swung to consulting after a year.

It’s a little weird going from E-6 to analyst, but honestly I don’t mind. I get paid plenty and enjoy the lack of responsibility. I also just bought a bed and breakfast, so maybe I’ll focus on that full time in the future. Planning to at least partially retire by 40.

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Nothing too crazy. I bought a single family home in a resort area that gets lots of tourists in summer, fall, and winter. The home is 5,000 sqft and has 6 bedrooms and 4 bathrooms. I found it on Zillow, the asking price was fair and even $15,000 less than appraisal.

I setup an LLC for the property and could hire a property manager as only an investment, but I plan to sell current home and move there full time to manage myself and do consulting remotely. House pictured below:

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I feel the opposite happening…yearning for an adventure and that this corporate life is draining my soul and energy. Think part of me is just missing the sense of camaraderie, sense of meaningful mission, and ability to be act on risky tasks…anyone have advice on tackling this?

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You’re probably right, a nice dog and just picking things up and putting them down might help. Always feel better when I’m working out, but consulting fs with my schedule…guess I’ll just have to wake up early and get after it. Appreciate the advice.

I've felt the same way, and continue to (for the most part). Achievement is addicting, honestly, and building from one successfully checked box to another just feeds into that.

I would encourage you to just ride the wave. I think it'll come to its own natural conclusion where you wake up one day and say, "Well, that's enough. I'm satisfied." It has not happened to me professionally yet, but I've had it happen in a different context and presume the process will be the same.

The alternative is that you just keep rolling and achieving until you cannot so so anymore. If that's the case, then you'll have set yourself up to be remembered longer than most (though you risk never fully self-actualizing if you cannot come to terms with where you were forced to stop).

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