Hug or Handshake: Male consultant here, what's the appropriate way to greet a female coworker? I usually go in for the handshake and it typically comes off as incredibly awkward. Please help.

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Far as I can tell, women want to be treated the same as men in the workplace. So, handshake or bro-hug should fit the bill.
I’ve also been known to give out the occasional high-5 when she deserving.

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Female here. If meeting for first time, handshake would do. If you know each other whether it's virtual or irl and you're meeting for a first time or after a while, I don't mind the bro hug (usually I initiate it because men wouldn't).

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I always go with the handshake but 75% of the time the female goes for the hug which I think is what OP means by it being really awkward. However I’d prefer to never be the cause of that awkward mismatch so I still always go with the handshake

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Do the "Sorry our shoulders grazed at the Urinal" Grin and do a 1 handed half rainbow arch wave at them.

Don't touch/No contact

I had a friend once sum up the entire environment right now: "IT'S A TRAP!"

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P1 in what world is a hug groping?

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I hate when people hug me... please just shake my hand if we don't know each other and even if we know each other well drop the handshake but don't hug me

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Hugs weird me out at work. If you go in to hug me, I will dodge it.

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Learn to take cues. Sometimes hugs are fine, sometimes not. If you’re not sure, handshake or just a nod and a “hey Susan! Good to see you again” is typically fine too. I work with people all over the country and often we’ll go months without seeing each other. When it’s someone I know well and am friends with and we haven’t seen each other in a while, I hug. But not on an every day basis. If I see them often I dont hug.

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Handshake unless you know them really well.

I'm not a natural hugger, but I have long term female colleagues and even a few male who are huggers so I let them hug me.

Quite frankly I'm irresistable. It's a curse.

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If I know well and like the person, definitely hug.🙋‍♀️

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P***y grab is always appropriate

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Definitely handshake. Better to be formal, borderline awkward than the alternative.

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Why would you hug someone in business?

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I’m a guy and I hug everybody if I know them well. Otherwise, it’s a handshake.

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I guess it depends on what relationship you have with your colleagues. I saw a partner who I’m close with who I haven’t seen in a few months - she immediately initiated the hug but I was going to also. Granted our relationship might be stronger than some - she’s confided in me regarding her personal relationships and such...

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Bow. Better health

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I hug my coworkers whom I’m cool with.

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You would be surprised by the amount of women that get offended.

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I don't like touching people so I just do a little bow (I'm Asian) unless they stick their hand out. NO HUGS.

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Pump fake the shake and go in for the big H

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Always always ALWAYS handshake. If the woman OR man feels comfortable enough to hug, it is their place to initiate. I cannot stress this enough... ALWAYS handshake.

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I'm from Miami, always go in for the kiss.

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