Hug or Handshake: Male consultant here, what's the appropriate way to greet a female coworker? I usually go in for the handshake and it typically comes off as incredibly awkward. Please help.

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Far as I can tell, women want to be treated the same as men in the workplace. So, handshake or bro-hug should fit the bill.
I’ve also been known to give out the occasional high-5 when she deserving.

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Female here. If meeting for first time, handshake would do. If you know each other whether it's virtual or irl and you're meeting for a first time or after a while, I don't mind the bro hug (usually I initiate it because men wouldn't).

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At work, I only intiate hugs with long term friends in the company (known them for 5+ years and haven't seen them in a long time). I will reciprocate hugs when others initiate.

In my personal life everyone gets a hug.

I'm a dude for the record.

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Handshake

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Always handshake. But as a Brazilian however and in Brazil the norm in casual occurrences is handshake for men and two cheek kisses for female. But not exactly sure how it is in a business setting as I never worked there, but would assume handshake as well.

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👆🏼maybe I shouldn’t say always handshake as if you know men/women well, why not hug if it is mutual.

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Handshake in business is good. For any/all people.

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I go for the handshake but if the women opens for the hug I will give one, as it would be rude not to. But I feel a little uncomfortable given the environment. Hugs are for long time peers who’ve been through “the wars” with me and friends. Oh for the days when a good slap on the butt and “nice job toots!” made it all so easy 😄

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How does one normally execute the bro hug? I've seen several variations.

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That's one nice thing for those employed by the military. You salute. The rules are written for it. There's nothing subjective about it.

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In NY we dap up everyone

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Here’s a good rule: would you do it to The Rock? If not, don’t do it to a lady

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^ that's just a regular hug

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Casual French kiss

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^ Reply 69? Nailed it, S&1!

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Why the hell would you hug someone you barely know?

Hugs for my family. Coworkers get handshakes and fist-bumps. Unless we go drinking and they force the hug thing.

What if I don't wanna shake a women's hand or give her a hug

Head nod, or any other contextually/culturally appropriate gesture

@A7: Who’s forcing you?

Thank you for posting this!

I really wish people wouldn’t first bump... it’s so bro and fratty. Id say a fist bump is less appropriate than a hug in an office

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