Hug or Handshake: Male consultant here, what's the appropriate way to greet a female coworker? I usually go in for the handshake and it typically comes off as incredibly awkward. Please help.

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Far as I can tell, women want to be treated the same as men in the workplace. So, handshake or bro-hug should fit the bill.
I’ve also been known to give out the occasional high-5 when she deserving.

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Female here. If meeting for first time, handshake would do. If you know each other whether it's virtual or irl and you're meeting for a first time or after a while, I don't mind the bro hug (usually I initiate it because men wouldn't).

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Female here - handshake unless I’m someone you know really well

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Just don’t do the weirdass handshake like we’re in 1825 where you grab my fingers before we can get in a good handshake. I drew a picture because idk what to call it

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Handshake. The same as with a man. Just because they are female doesn’t mean they want to be groped lol.

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Fist bump. Spreads leads germs. Less weird clammy hands vs. overly machismo iron grip

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It’s incredibly awkward to #metoo

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Love the 1825 handshake

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Casual grunt will suffice

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we should bow like the Japanese

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I treat my female colleagues the same way I treat my male colleagues.

A what-up nod / fist bump. Sometimes, if there’s a Partner around, it’ll be a handshake.

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Why would you ever hug a coworker?

Use your words.

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I handshake unless they say give me a hug which they usually do. In that case it would be weird not to hug

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Well that’s kind of baffling . I was at client side yesterday and a female employee introduced herself and proceeded to give me a hug . I was like okayyy. I wasn’t sure what to say or do . We had just talked on the phone a few times

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This is obviously so specific to context - culture, personal preferences of the people involved... I have colleagues I hug, colleagues I shake hands with, and colleagues I nod at in passing. As long as I don’t mix them up, there’s no issue.

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I think the world would be a better place if everyone; friends, strangers, new acquaintances, would just gave each other a big squeeze. #freehugs

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Do this:

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Call her "champ" and then give her a hifive followed by a good game.

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Perspective from a woman here- always default to handshake if we’ve just met.

Also the 1825 handshake slayed me

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I am a woman, and dudes hug me all the time. Other women handshake. If you guys are doing it because you think that is what women want, let the woman initiate to be sure. If it’s up to me, handshake for formality and fist bump for friends and hugs for whoever decides my promotability

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