I don’t think I’ll be able to properly settle into a serious relationship, as I’ve never had proper stability in my career. In fact I’ve been fired 4x and the anxiety and fear sticks with me like trauma. From past experiences it’s been hard to balance work and a relationship effectively. Anyone else??

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Yes and therapy helps. Maybe IFS therapy. Helped me more than any other therapeutic model.
Similar background as alluded to, always waiting for the other shoe to drop or to be fired.
There could be some self sabotage there too.

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One of the good things about relationships/marriage is that, you don't have to carry this burden alone. It is always better to have two jobs, that way if one spouse looses their job, they can rely on the other spouse while they are getting back on their feet. So don't despair thinking you don't deserve to be with someone because of this. If anything, the point of having that additional support is for things like this.

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Idk, Lots of wives out there who have little tolerance for financial instability from their husband.

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You’re asking how or why instead of just admitting it.

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