I don’t want to work tmrw, I’ve had such a nice weekend with my two-year-old. I’m sitting on the sofa feeling teary & emotional. This time is so fleeting. Does anyone else feel like this and how do you get through? I’m obsessed with him and increasingly less with my job.

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Anyway, just going to let this all out to strangers of the Internet whilst I’m sat on the sofa alone as my husband is out and just tears rolling down my cheeks.
I never knew I could love something as much as that little boy sleeping in the next room. And yet tomorrow I have to go and work on yet another pitch, spinning plates all day long, feeling crazy. Also having a bit of a tough time at work on a new project with my counterpart- a male, boys club type, scrutinising my every move. I absolutely give my all at work but missed quite a few baby bedtimes these past 2 weeks, and it’s really accruing a sort of debt within me.
I don’t want to be one of the women that quits advertising just before 40, or when they have kids, but the emotions I’m feeling right now are telling me something. But maybe every single job is like this and I’m just being unrealistic!?

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Okay resurfacing this, as I'm on my couch from being unable to sleep due to stress and turmoil my job is bringing me. Im so fucking sad and pissed that i've worked my ass off to get this far only to see it's not worth it at all. All I want to is be with my baby (2 yr old girl).

My little one has had pneumonia twice in the last 6 months both times I wasnt even able to take anytime off to be with her because I am just constantly overdrawn. Its completely unsustainable and unfulfilling. Im so perplexed on how to pivot out of it though.. not even sure where I would start and need to not compromise my salary range.

Let me know what you ended up doing ?

Why do you feel pressured not to quit advertising? Advertising has shown that it doesn’t owe you anything, and you don’t owe it anything. I quit a year after my son was born and it’s the best decision I ever made (other than having him). He’s 8 now, I WFH and I am at every school event, sports game, etc. I volunteer at his school once/week and am his room parent, I know his friends and friends’ parents, etc. Not to mention, I love my job/company/coworkers and have time for my friends and partner.

I was in advertising for 10 years and it was my life before I was a parent. But there hasn’t been a day when I looked back and regretted leaving.

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You can try freelancing. There’s downtime in between projects when you get to be a full time mom.

I feel this. Really hope the 4 day work week becomes a real thing soon

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The same thing happened to me. I’m going to try to do part time freelance. Hoping with ai a 40 hour work week can be crunched into 25

Good for you! I ended up moving to a smaller company doing a four day week. I earn less but I’m so much happier.

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