Spouse and I have been sleeping in separate rooms since couple of years now. They say they can't sleep together because of my snoring and it bothers them. How have other couples dealt with it?

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Super common issue. You need to get it checked out and solved. It’s not fair for the other person to not sleep due to your problem while you’re sawing logs and waking up refreshed. Lack of sleep is a health issue for your spouse because of you and that’s how you need to look at this. Side note: you may not be refreshed due to your snoring so it would be a win/win.

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You probably need a CPAP machine

Do you have sleep apnea?

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This would be my concern.

I think it’s fine and preferable TBH. The real question is how often are you intimate with your partner? It’s hot in DC so a quick bang and separation into our own rooms sounds great.

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Agreed. My husband and I sleep in separate rooms because we wake each other up at night (not due to snoring, just moving around). Yes, people think it's weird, but it works for us. We just make sure to cuddle before separating, and we are intimate on an almost daily basis. All the advice I have read from psychological studies says this is enough to keep the relationship strong.

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Literally Google "snoring sepaate rooms" and see hundreds and hundreds of posts on this topic. There are countless couples who deal with this. In some cases snoring can be fixed and in others, it cannot.

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My boyfriend snores horribly. He has been checked out and apparently he just has a thick tongue and there’s nothing that can be done. We sleep in separate rooms and I wear ear plugs when we have to share beds when traveling, but I still wake up even with ear plugs. Lucky for him, he is a wonderful and I love him dearly, and I can overlook it.

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My wife and I have had separate rooms for a year. We have conjugal visits a couple of times a week but I snore, probably have sleep apnea and we prefer the separate space. We have date nights a couple of times a month where we actually go out. As long as you are both comfortable, happy and healthy it’s your lives to live, don’t let other people tell you how to do it.

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Why do people feel the need to share a bed with someone else? Even without snoring, the pulling of the sheets and movement of my SO is quite disturbing. Why can’t sleeping be a solo activity? Letting children share our bed is generally frowned upon because no one sleeps well. Why is it suddenly a good thing when it’s an adult?

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I haven’t slept in the same room as my wife for a year. Don’t love it, but the path of least resistance. Lots more important things about being married.

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Not married but know I could never deal with that. Fix the snoring and if they don’t want to try being in the same room still then personally I would be out ⚡️

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Couples therapy.

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Could be a variety of health issues. My brother had this problem and went to the doctor’s. Turns out his tonsils were enlarged and his body was working overtime to breathe at night, which also affected his heart. He got the tonsils surgically removed and is doing much better.

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Happily. Sleep divorce is a great way to maintain love and intimacy while still sleeping soundly

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My parents do this because of my dads snoring and how he needs a firm bed while my mom needs a soft one lol. Honestly, it works for them. Def see a doctor still ofc.

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Have you tried to determine why you snore so loudly? Seen a doctor? Done a Google search? My SO has tried various things to temperature his snoring from diet to sleep positions. The success is inconsistent but he tries, and on bad nights he sleeps in the guest room. Point is he is actively participating in a solution. You should put in some effort if you want to change the sleeping arrangements .

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CPAP machine. I don’t snore but I do have apnea (I just like to stop breathing in the middle of the night). Works wonders and is whisper quiet.

Use 4 pillows piled up. Works like magic

Ummmm jackpot!

Tell your doc you need a sleep study done. They will have remedies for your snoring. Sleep apnea can cause a bunch of health problems. It’s best to get it under control asap.

Go get that snoring checked out. Might be sleep apnea. So do you have sex then go to your room?

Just moved to separate rooms for several reasons, it’s not uncommon.

And would highly recommend a sleep study.
, mine was life changing.

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