I recently went to trial with a white partner who I long considered to be my mentor. The lead trial attorney (poc) and I grew close during this experience and mentor basically admitted to being jealous of this. Now I hear from trial attorney that white mentor is talking badly about me to other partners in the firm. I’m at a satellite office of a large firm so mentor wields a lot of influence. Idk how long this has been going on, but time to leave, right?

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I’m sorry that this happened to you. Just curious was this former mentor a white woman?

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I wholeheartedly agree with P1. Always, always beware of the white woman. They will hang out with you and claim minority status while it benefits them, then once they have what they want or you start looking like you might outshine them, those claws come out. Same with gay white men - they are still white and they are still men. We don’t talk about this enough, but both groups benefit more from leaning into their race than their minority status, so they will always use it to their advantage when the going gets tough. Just look at American history - it is fraught with examples of white women throwing black and other non whites under the bus to get a leg up, e.g. right to own property (white women started by owning slaves), “women’s” right to vote (which was really just white women using other women, then jumping ship once they got the right for themselves)… That’s what we see every election cycle and it’s time we start believing what they’ve been telling us all along.

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100% time to leave

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I hate that we as BIPOC are still having to fight the good fight. We shouldn’t have to work EXTRA hard to be considered a hard worker and to stand out above others. It isn’t fair. If you can’t address this to fix the issue, time to move on unfortunately. Hugs to you because it’s never a good feeling to be on the side that is hurt. 🫶🏾

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How does the trial attorney suggest handling this? Do they also suggest leaving?

Also, what does the trial attorney say is the reputation of the white female mentor? She may be on her way out, which could be another factor in whether you leave.

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