Anyone else have dreams about drinking? Do the ever stop? I find them very upsetting/disturbing. (I’m 1 yr sober)

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Same as first two answers. I get them if I've been around alcohol. I think it's a good sign, that your brain realizes it's wrong and is working it out.

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Don't be ashamed. You're an alcoholic. Birds fly, fish swim, we drink. And if we can't drink successfully, we think about drinking. I had a series of drunk dreams and my sponsor recommended yet another 90 in 90. Damn if he wasn't right. It worked. And I have years in program. It may be debated, but I think the purpose of recovery is to build such a rich spiritual/personal life that you won't want to drink. Cut yourself some slack, but keep working. One day at a time.

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I call them “freebies.” To me (11 yrs sober) I just allow my self to let the subconscious play itself out. They are nerve wracking because they often feel so real and raw. Build more sober references to draw upon and get relief from meetings.

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Agree with all the above. It’s part of the journey we all go through. As time goes by they’ll happen less and less. But they are a good reminder of where we don’t want to be. Sharing about them at meetings helps with the uncomfortably.

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Just celebrated 16 years and still have dreams..But now, they play to the end and are nightmares. They help now. :-) they confirm that I belong. Non alcoholics never think about it like we do.

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Have had them. Seems like it lessens with time (3.5 yrs here). Would wake up with a feeling of guilt and dread as if I'd relapsed. I viewed it was my subconscious giving me a reminder of the guilt/shame that came from my drinking days, as of to say- "Seeeee why that's a bad idea?"

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