I thought my twin was doing okay (mental health issues and alcohol/drug addiction). Today I found out he was kicked out of his apartment, and that he has been doing much harder drugs than I thought. When asked if he planned on or saw himself dead, he said sometimes he doesn’t care. I live in a different country than him, and I can’t stop imagining the worst outcomes. I fear for his life, and I am devastated

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This must be so hard for you esp being far away.

Part of his journey toward maybe seeking recovery

Addiction is a terrible thing and it takes us to terrible places. Let your twin know you love them, and that if they want help, it’s available; there are counselors and therapists and rehabs and detoxes and 12-step programs and support programs and religions and doctors and much more. The tricky thing is that not every option works for every person, but when desperate enough, we can be willing to try anything to get better.

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