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The attrition rate in Infosys for last 3 quarters roughly accounts to 75% (20+27+28). With nearly 3/4 of the company moving out in last 9 months, the Infy management have never seemed to have learnt a lesson from it.
Still no compensation revision given for employees who have been associated for long term (Say 4+ years)
Folks - Is there any compensation revision planned in the near future... considering the after effects of q1 fy23 attrition rise ?
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Ughhh. You knew how she dressed when you met her, why did you date her?
It sounds like you're not actually into her, probs better to break up and let her find someone who values her for who she is.
F here, I have always been the one to dress nicer. I have similar experience with my female friends and their bf/husbands. This was something we always talked about. Women typically dress nicer than men so it certainly changes to see the opposite happened to you. Your image outside as a couple is important. I know women who veto what their bf/husbands wants to wear when they go out to an event or make sure that they are presentable, so any comment here that says you don't get to have an opinion on what your gf wears is asinine. It goes both ways.
I would say take her shopping like someone else suggested and show her some looks that you think would look good on her, or find a way to bring it up to her by suggesting some alternatives. If you know her size, are out and about and you see something stylish, you can also buy it for her as a gift.
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1. Do you give her a reason to dress up?
2. Buy her what you want to see her in
If you can’t do those two, consistently, then you don’t get an opinion
The whole point of this post is that she doesn't dress up unless there's a special reason to lol.
Ill take her off your hands bro 🤣
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This^ there are times I wish my girlfriend dressed differently but I realize that I don’t put a lot of effort into my appearance outside of work and special events. My gf dresses up for similar events without asking and that’s enough for me.
Offer to take her shopping and pay for everything
Are u dating someone in tech? The stylish women are more likely to work in finance or something
One day when I was married, my husband wanted to go to Olive Garden as a date. I got dressed, did my hair and makeup to get ready to go.
I came out to leave and he was ready to go with his unwashed ass at the door wearing a hole-y t-shirt and Tripp pants, hadn't brushed his hair or given a second thought at all. I immediately went back to our room, changed into jeans and a big t-shirt. It was the last time I let him make me look like a fool for my effort when it was clearly unmatched and I was going to be forced to be uncomfortable all night so he could have a "trophy."
How does she really feel about herself, the way she feels in public, especially when you two are in public spaces?
If she's just chill and would rather be comfortable and you have a problem with it, that's on you.
But talk to her about this, only to get her perspective.
There are a couple aspects of your statement and question that could be responded to. This seems like something you should have a conversation with your gf regarding.
If you are trying to get her to change her personal style and preferences to suit yours, I will caution you are on well trodden but dangerous ground.
Have you tried using your words and TALKING to her? Or was your first thought to ask random people on the Internet for advice on something that is a very individualistic thing that may have a ton of outside factors that we don't know and, thus, cannot make informed answers on?
And also remember that women do not exist to look nice for you. Often, if we are not dressing up, it is either due to being very comfortable in our bodies and not caring what others think, or it is because we do not feel attractive so have no reason to want to look pretty. She may also feel very comfortable with you and not want to bring unasked for attention to herself from random men who, like you apparently have, ogle other women.
If you are bothered by how she, as an autonomous human, wishes to present herself, then ultimately you aren't a good fit. Speaking of somebody from a previously controlling relationship, you will turn her into a shell of nothing if you force your aesthetic onto her when it isn't her wish. Let her be her. Talk to her and see if there's a reason maybe that she doesn't feel like dressing up. But if you feel the need to mandate her dress, she's better off without you.
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She's not your type. You should find someone who is. Otherwise you will always be unhappy.
Well it’s your life. If you value dressing up more than other things she offers, then, time to have that convo
How was she when you first met her?
So since she did this early on most things about her were attractive that you kept going. There is no perfect person. If this is so important to you, you need to move on. You can’t change someone all the time. It looks like she understands what you like, but she isn’t doing it regular because it’s not her. By the way, plenty of women do like to be stylish and dress up a certain way however are the other traits of these people better than all the traits of this woman you know now?
I feel like this is my husband talking about me LOL