I would cry until i couldnt breath over you & you hurt me so deeply. Yet I would pray to God for you back. Now i’m engaged to my dream partner & You reached out to me to try again. i cant believe it. I would never leave my partner for you but i cant believe it. I still love you but the damage has been done & I have moved onto much better. Life works in such mysterious ways.

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

Hi
Are there any couple pg/studio aprtment in pune wanna shift with my wife for some 3-4months.
Please help me with some suggestions..

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Finally had a breakdown over infertility this AM and trying to pull myself together for Zoom. My tests are fine, but husband can’t deliver during my fertile window. I feel so hopeless with every month that goes by, and he doesn’t have any sense of urgency when HE is the one who wants kids more than I do. Just needed to vent.

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

I’m only in my thirties, but I can’t help but feel like I would’ve been married with kids right now if I were straight. Dating while gay is a special kind of hell. 🥴

How do you convince your SO to accompany you to Varsity to tick it off your ATL bucket list??

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Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

How do you deal with parents/close family whose political views are diametrically opposed from yours?

My mom’s friend was supposed to come to my wedding in a week and just cancelled. I’ve never met her but my mom insisted she be invited. This person already sent us a check which we deposited already; we already sent a thank you card. This person left me a VM saying they were sorry they couldn’t come; they have leukemia and their Dr. didn’t approve. Do I need to call them back? I would like to avoid an awkward phone call about personal matterwith a stranger but also don’t want to be insensitive.

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Really trying not to spiral, and my practice group leader has been openly hostile to and dismissive of me lately. I haven’t mentioned my depression/anxiety to him because we’re not exactly getting along swimmingly, but I don’t know who else to talk to about my MH. Fighting with my wife hasn’t helped either. Really not sure how to handle it aside from counseling but that isn’t getting me anywhere fast. Thoughts?

How did you make friends when you moved here?

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

My fiancé moved abroad for med school. Long distance is hard but I love my job, the work, the people, and the culture. I wish there were roles where you could work abroad. I wish I could work here forever, but I’ll likely need to switch to a firm that allows working abroad at some point to save the marriage. I’m afraid to tell anyone because I want to maximize my time/contribution here. Thoughts? Advice? Does anyone know of good firms that allow abroad work?

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

First boyfriend i’ve had during the holidays and he’s away at home. I’m so bored 🙁😞

If you loved your small independent broker dealer but they had just been acquired by a much larger corporation which does have benefits in terms, mostly, in technology, but you lose your “family” in the home office, what would you do and who would you look at if you were considering a change of your own?

What’s the culture like in your IA team?

Hi,

I am about to join Amazon team in del18 -B&M Sites suppose in case if I don't like the work can I request them to change my role to some other department in 1-2 months also any insights about this role?

Hi

I have joined IBM and resigned within 50 days.
Reason: project I was allocated not good and I initially rejected project but they forcefully moved to the project.I have asked multiple times to replace the project after that I have resigned.
Now manager is threatening me that I will be placed under no hire to IBM.
Is it ethical?

Am I able to access MyLearning before starting with Accenture? I received a Countdown to Accenture email and it included a piece about starting trainings before your first day, but both the link to MyLearning and the link to support for the link not working were unaccessible.

Bonus and comp raise %?

Hello Fishes,

I have joined hcl on 24 th sep 2021 and my last working day here is 18th May 2022.
Today I received my provisional full and final settlement and the payable amount is negative -11454. They are recovering the full AMPB amount which I got from September months.
I have heard from this platform only that hcl stopped the recovery police but still I got the negative fnf.

I just received an offer to lateral into banking. How does independence affect the stocks I currently own? If I join and my stocks are on a restricted list will I have to sell them? Or will I be limited to being unable to buy more/sell any during the course of my employment.

Struggling with a decision. Just started a new role with good manager and WLB within healthcare technology. But another large tech firm/cloud/software reached out and willing to pay 20% more. Not sure what the WLF is for this other role. Should I take the better paying role?

I’m currently an ERP implementation consultant with 3 YOE at Deloitte. I want to get into strategy at MBB entry level. Can someone give me a referral at McKinsey, Bain, or BCG. Thanks! Please DM me

Planning to exit tech firms as a mid to senior level roles. What are some possible sources I can reach out at to make this happen?

Imagine starting Lamar and Diggs and still losing. Couldn’t be me.

Any recommendations for a document management system that automatically saves emails into the proper folders?

Was anyone else surprised that there were only 10 dragons? The trailers made it seem like there were dozens.

Do you get your mom's flowers for Valentine's day? My mom is single, so I thought it might be a nice gesture

What are some things that help you get through busy season?

Everyone in my firm try so hard to be politically correct😍feel so included.

These paychecks aren't cutting it. Side hustle ideas?

What random skills do you possess that can help during the pandemic? I'll go first-

I can make soap, beer and mead from home. Im gonna be drunk and clean!

Looking for a bingeable show that's not too serious. An easy watch type show that's only ~30 minute episodes... Thoughs??!!?

Bring back Trump’s market.

Looking for New Year’s Eve plans for a couple other than going out to a club... any ideas?

Any off beat documentaries to recommend? Just watched the Barkley Marathons.

I bought my boyfriend the Valve Index for Christmas. What are some games I should buy him?

Why do people not respond to calendar invites? Come on now we can do better🙃

Played Xbox the other day for the first time in several years. I am terrible now, to be fair I wasn't anything special before. I kind of feel like the game has beaten me and I need to buy one just to practice and beat it. Ha ha

Don't mean to be rude. Plz tell me if this is rude. But whats your religion? Assuming it's ok to ask since we're all anon. I'm a non-practicing but was born in a Muslim country. Agnostic maybe?🤷🏻‍♂️

I had a sex dream about my senior, but I have a boyfriend. Am I terrible? Has this happen to anyone else?

Do you have a movie you could watch over and over again? I have a lot, but lately it’s Ready Player One and The Martian. Easily seen both 10+ times.

For those of you with immediate family members who are at high risk, how are you doing? I find myself being very anxious and stressed about my father getting sick.

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

Am I the only who’s embarrassed when someone asks what do i do? Im an auditor btw

Reasons to stay in NYC? Kinda feel really sad living here.

There is no more powerful feeling than holding a draw-4 card in uno