I’m finding life to be very meaningless in a way.. for context I’m 30F, great career, good family relationship, financially very stable and recently a home owner and I’m now able to travel and purchase what I want as opposed to where I was 2 years ago… but I feel I’m missing a person to share it all with.. I know your partner doesn’t define you but I’m getting old(er) & I feel while my professional life is going well, my personal life is in a rut with no sign of change. My self esteem is low AF

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Therapy helps.

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Absolutely second this!! 31F here. I’ve been going to therapy for the past 3 years and it’s life changing, of course that’s one component, I’ve also been putting a heck of a lot of effort into reading, understanding myself and the world around me, being totally intentional in perceiving situations that I go through without judgement but instead naming the emotions (so I can talk about it with my therapists later), putting myself out there (instead of just waiting to be perfect), dating, working out… Be intentional on experiences but also be patient with yourself 😊 I’m sure you will find someone special to share life with as you walk towards loving your own companionship more and more.

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Travel the world. Befriend other cultures. It will fix much of this.

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Get a pet if possible.

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Sounds like you’ve checked thd box on your career at this point. Congrats! Now, it’s time to focus on what’s ndct in your life, not just your career.

It’s tome to be open to more than just work now. Explore new adventures, dpend more time with friends. Be open to possibilities. Don’t expect your personal relationships yp follow the same path as your career.

Enjoy your accomplishments thus far snd embrace the here and now. Just live. Just enjoy. The rest will come in time.

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You have achieved some goals you were focused on. Seems like you have time to focus on something else you considered important now.

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Shoot your shot, SC1

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I didn’t meet my hubby until i was 38 and he’s the best person I ever could have imagined ending up with. Do all the things now while you can before you settle down and have kids! Travel, maximize time with friends, find what brings you joy. The rest will fall into place in its own time.

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How can you get past that and focus on the positives? Always thought a stable professional life is the hard work and once that’s set, the other will naturally set as well

I like what PM1 said. I will add - being 30, you are on the brink of an awesome time in life! I’m now in my late 30s and looking back, I’m amazed at how many wonderful people I met who enriched my life and how many adventures I’ve had in this season of life. Based on what you have shared, it really sounds like the world is your oyster. I am hopeful for you!

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Are you active on OLD? Sounds like you have everything else set to focus on finding the right partner.

Just curious, what's been your past dating experiences and were there any that "got away" or were you glad they ended?

Minimal and no regrets at all

I’m a few years older and have the same thoughts. Not sure if they will ever go away. But if you want someone to share it with the best time to look for that person is now :) anything holding you back?

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