Every time I start a new job I feel like I have to come out all over again. Feels exhausting since I’m a quiet person. And I’m not that obviously gay by looking. Usually I just told a few people and let the words travel if they do. How do you guys handling coming out at new job?

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I freelance so I have to do this every couple months and I’m in the same boat. I do it by casually mentioning my boyfriend in small talk situations. (“Oh my boyfriend and I watched that new HBO show this weekend” etc)

My rule of thumb is no straight person ever has to say “I’m straight” yet we all figure it out with context clues. Straight people mention their wives, husbands, exes, dates, relationships all the time. If it’s relevant to the conversation and work-appropriate feel free to casually mention yours too.

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I got tired of coming out so I cut my hair short. Does the job for me. 💇🏻‍♀️

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I don’t think of it as coming out anymore. More informing that I have a husband, not a wife if assumed or stated, or I just drop husband in convo as people do. Sometimes it gets a look. Otherwise it’s biz as usual. I’m married with a kid so it kind of works itself out pretty quick. I just don’t think of it as an event anymore, as it’s just a fact of my life.

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I would give better advice if I had an understanding of why you feel it's necessary to come out. Is it a dangerous environment for gay folks? Are people making homophobic comments around you? Do you require certain accomodations?

As mentioned above, straight people don't have to come out; I generally don't feel the need either. I am pretty curatorial about what personal details I share or not. If people assume I'm one thing or another, it's fine with me. I'm not closeted, it's no secret, plenty of people know, but my sexuality comes up organically in a conversation if it comes up at all. I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make an announcement in 2022.

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I feel similarly - I’m a bi woman and my partner is NB. It’s difficult “coming out” for both of us at new jobs and just with existing team members.

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I’ve always struggled with when to mention it. I don’t want to hide it, but it seems like I never get around to mentioning it for months, and then it’s weird to bring it up at that point. If I were dating someone it would be easier to drop the social cues.

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Exactly!!

You can ask if there’s an LGBT employee resource group.

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