I’m Sean, the gentleman who had to put hands on his boss. They basically fired me, but I believe I’m clear on any assault charges. I got another job in Midtown at a media consulting agency, but then my boss started micromanaging me. This time I remained cool and stated “I understand people’s communication and working styles vary, however I’m well competent and would appreciate if you trust me to do my tasks.”

Now I get an email from HR saying I’m using “threatening language”. I CANT WIN.

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Wait lol. Define “had to”. I feel like there had to have been more options than throw hands.

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Wait, put hands on? Did I miss something?

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Earlier post in this bowl.

Did they indicate in the email what transpired and what you said?

This. If they haven’t, follow up with HR and ask for clarification on what the specific threatening language was. Seems like your boss is rattled by directness (🙄) so maybe frame it from a place of curiosity.

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Yes you did. I offered to help … and still willing to offer guidance. The ad game is tricky.

😭😂😭

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