I've been battling with depression lately. I've been trying to hide it because I feel like everyone expects me to be this happy, outgoing, extroverted gay guy and I play the part as best I can. But I am falling apart on the inside. I feel so alone, tired, and unmotivated. Does anyone ever feel similar, I've been looking for non-medication methods to help me fight these feelings but I'm not sure what actually works?

I am 52 I have been feeling so tired and when I was in my 40’s. I had a lot more energy. Now I am so tired after work - but I have 4 girls ages, 16-15-13-9. I am going through menopause and my Osteoarthritis hurts somedays and that doesn’t work. Any advice how to keep up with my four girls while feeling crummy?!?

I have the biggest crush on my wife right now. Married 7 years, together for 15 plus. Went through a couple years of some staleness after kids and then it hit me like a ton of bricks how lucky I am. It’s like being a teenager again. I can’t stop thinking about her and I can’t keep my hands off of her when I get home.

Thoughts on cupping therapy?

I'm looking to join a gym but I would love to find one where I don't have to deal with overly cheery staff. I'm really wanting a gym that I can access with a keycard at any time and not have to deal with anyone and if I could sign up online without having to take a tour and hear the sales pitch, that would be amazing. Does a place like this exist?

Been struggling with my ADHD/depression more over the past few weeks than ever before. I am at a serious risk of losing my job for failure to meet billables and I can’t bring myself to fix the problem. I am normally an over achiever, but new to this job- so I don’t have a reputation to lean on here. I have not disclosed my conditions. Literally terrified and not sure how to pull myself out of this. Grateful for any advice or just to know others have made it through something similar.

My husband did his semen analysis last week and his morphology came out to be low i.e. 2 (normal range 2.5 to 4). He had done it couple of times few years ago and results were great. My doctor said I should check with fertility clinic for assessment. The appointments are not available immediately. Wanted to get guidance on these results. Anyone has been in a similar boat? Are these results really scary? His motility seems to be fine. Do these results fluctuate? Hope to hear back. Thank you!

What would you do or give to work on a COVID vax/therapy?! Me, I’d be willing to work at a lower daily/hourly rates to be part of the solution.

I never thought I’d say this, but I kinda miss the networking events and stuff. I used to just show up to those to be a good “firm citizen,” but I’d really love to see another lawyer in person instead of through a Zoom call. If I ran into one of my old classmates from law school, I’d probably hug them right now.

Hey anyone need any ADHD tips? I’m an ADHD coach (w/ ADHD myself). Dm me whatever questions you have & I’ll give my suggestions. I also have some good app and tool recommendations. Just genuinely want to help.

How many days is an acceptable amount to tell your team you are having a hard time working due to illness? I have the flu and every time I try to work for more than 10 minutes I feel like I’m going to collapse. I haven’t been so sick in years. I told my teams yesterday and they’ve been understanding so far, but I think I need to take another day today and I’m worried it’s going to start to look bad. I’m fairly busy but not mid-signing or anything.

My SO had a career change, went back to school, and just started with his new job. He is struggling a bit and is very stressed out. What can I do to help?

What's the best relationship advice you've heard recently?

Suggest some good mattress and office chair for back pain issue

Best primary care doctors in midtown Manhattan? Thank you in advance for your help.

I feel like the parts of ADHD that don't suck aren't talked about that much (and I need a reminder, desperately). The one thing I like is my ability (when I can get my brain to work) to focus hard and get something done in a short amount of time. If I'm really locked in, I can get a serious amount of work done fast. feel free to add yours (please lmao💀).

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

Anybody struggling with fellow associates in big law? Currently working with associates that will stab you in the back at all costs and don’t care about building friendships, etc. This environment is mentally draining and I feel like I am an outlier for being kind. Truly shows that nice people finish last.

Are any of your firms providing COVID vaccine exemptions?

Went from 8.1 A1C to 6.2 A1C type 2 diabetes in 8 months..changes in diet and starting walking daily!!

Keep at it guys and we can control this disease..

What is benefits you portal?

I work my best when I am busy and have upcoming deadlines. It’s either procrastination or just short of it, but I never miss a deadline and clients/partners are consistently happy with my work. I have tried forever to change this but have failed every time. Will this ever change or does this only get reinforced as you move up and keep getting more responsibility? How do you get the proverbial shit done?

Can you still earn status under the old world requirements if you have not combined? Trying to see if I can score an extra year of plat before I combine but idk if stays will count now, merged or not.

Edward Jones advisor with 30 million AUM and roughly 250k gross production. Been there for almost 4 years. Got an offer at Merrill Lynch to take over a 100 million dollar retirement transition plan in 5 years, or to join a 5 person Merrill Lynch team that manages a lot.

Pros to EJ: Have my own office, a year or two away from partnership, great office setting and client satisfaction.

Pros to Merrill: Bump in compensation, additional tools and services w banking, ability to take over assets.

One partner is driving me insane. I CANNOT work with him. We are far enough in the case that it would take a lot of time for someone to take over for me but still early enough that the case will be going for another 2 years. Has anyone ever asked to be pulled from a case and is there a way to distance myself from this partner without hurting my reputation? 2nd year lit associate, partner is a jr partner in a different office but we cross staff a lot. TIA!

Thoughts on cupping therapy?

Hello Folks, I have completed my Technical and Managerial rounds last week and got the confirmation from consultancy that I have cleared the interviews and will schedule a call with HR as per availability.
My question is usually how long does Nagarro HR takes to release the offer ?

What neighborhood is up-and-coming in Chicago?

Hi All,
One of my friends has recently joined capgemini and has following doubts related to tax proof.
Can we edit the tax declarations in HGS portal every month any day?
Does Capgemini asks for rent agreement along with rent receipts as a part of tax proof submission?
Also which proofs needed for,
80c - elss lic
80d - insurance for senior citizen parents
80ccd1b - nps

Interviewing for senior product manager role at Atlassian. Love everything I heard about the company so far but looking at the interviewers profile, am also super intimidated. They are in a completely different class. I am not even sure why I am a candidate here! 😥

A coworker of mine briefly mentioned that it’s the absolute size of short positions that matters, opposed to the relative size. Was she right?

I am looking for Salesforce supporter

If any one can support please ping me
Or can provide any references would be very helpful.

Has anyone served a subpoena on Instagram to produce deleted photographs from an account (within a range of dates)? If so, do you have any tips/best practices?

Anyone know how long USCIS takes to response in i140 case, regular filing? I got receipt number in Sep 2018, havent heard anything yet.
Thanks!

Hi All,

I have 2.5 years of exp in SAP Basis.

Can you pls refer me.

I'm looking to apply to a few tech roles at @The Hartford. Is there anyone who can offer me a referral?

Is 51k€/year adequate for a midlevel (4y experience) creative role? In France. Big agency.

This is so frustrating. Why are the hot ones ALWAYS in open relationships. I’m over these apps. I’m taking another break from all of them. Complete BLACKOUT (by Britney Spears).

I have this massive crush on my coworker and she's the type to kiss other girls for attention… so I've become her latest victim whenever we're out and I'm pretty sure she knows I'm gay and it's just 🙈 killing me softly sigh.

Anyone thinking about having a baby with a surrogate even being single in late 30s and a busy consultant?

Recent immigrants: How common is it to live at home until or prior to marriage? I’m weirded out that my guy lives with his parents, still but my bestie says it’s not uncommon for Asian families.

lol so on gay tiktok there’s this trend of videos basically saying “if you have a clear phone case, you know you’re gay”

ironic given I have a clear phone case. Is this a thing tho ? If so, I had no clue

This is the longest I’ve gone without any sexual activities with another person. I’m dying.

A guy who I was seeing for 6 months and who ghosted me suddenly just let me know that he got back with his ex. Pretty devastated tbh. What’s helped you get over similar situations?

That was quite the snow squall in Manhattan!

10 likes and I’ll go up to the hot guy at the gym and compliment his beard.

What dating apps do gay men use in UK? I am not into Grindr if that helps. I am particularly looking for apps recommendations where men are a bit more serious about dates, friendships, and LTR.

Anyone else 🤤 when American Ninja Warrior comes on?

Hi fellow queer fishes. I'm looking for b2b marketing opportunities (even freelance and part time gigs work). I have 7 years of experience and have served more than 40 companies so far on the agency side. My expertise is ABM and Inbound.
Can you please help this fish out?

I know this is tacky af to say and probably makes me seem v cheap, but if you had no intention to hang out again after dinner why did you let me pay for you?! Venmo me back!! 😡

Are there any places people would recommend in Napa? Going to be there for a few days.

Am I gonna be alone forever?! I’ve been in a handful of long term relationships. Some great and we ended as friends, some ended crappy. But all in all I do have some relationship experience. But after this last break up, I’m starting to get a little hopeless..(34yo lesbian here)

For those of you who are based in NYC, what are you all doing for New Year’s Eve?

Y’all, I legit haven’t met any guys organically. I play social sports that I have gone to parties. But then I’m still single and don’t ever get asked to go on dates ugh

Who’s going to Puerto Vallarta for holidays and NYE?

Need some advice from some lesbian fish:

I’m in my late 20s not fully out yet (but have told close friends and family im “not straight”). Up until several days ago, I hadn’t even kissed another girl..

It’s taken me a long time to get to this point and as of recent, the only thing on my mind has been to find another likeminded girl to fool around with in hopes of having my first sexual experience with another woman. *CONT IN COMMENTS*

Single 🐠 from where do you get your emotional support? There is a constant void I feel and not family and friends support isn’t working out / not an option.