Late 20s M. I went on two dates with a girl I met online and by the third date she said that she wants us be exclusive and “define” where we stand. Is this common?! She also mentioned that she expects me to respond faster to texts vs. taking a day or so. What do I do?

likefunny
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Sounds like she just knows what she wants and is serious about you.

If it's not your pace, then let her know.

like

I have let her know. I told her I’m not interested in pursuing a relationship at this time.

like

How have the dates been going? Do you feel it’s worth moving toward commitment? It’s okay if things don’t work out after a month or two. Maybe she does want to get intimate but only feels comfortable doing that in an exclusive relationship.

like

^^^

3 dates seems rather soon to jump into something. As for time took to respond, I hear where she’s coming from. People want to feel valued and prioritized, but all within reason. If you’re busy working, I get it. But the right person for you - they should be a priority. Online dating is tough, I’ve done it, requires very healthy, transparent communication. If you think she’s crazy, cut it off, but if you think there’s more to it, explain how you feel and maybe she’ll understand/adapt!

like

Tell her nobody tells daddy what to do. Put her in her place.

like

You’re being trained. Don’t let it happen.

like

This is only the beginning. The training starts with seemingly reasonable requests. If you want to keep dating her then hold your boundaries, tell her what you’ll offer, and if/when she throws a tantrum then leave. Or you can run now.

like

She’s looking for mental security and stability from her connection with you. This is a recipe for disaster as that can only come from within herself. Run.

like

Very astute observation. Makes sense.

you just got to communicate how your feeling with her. if you’re the type of guy who likes to text on occasions/only for making plans and meeting up, you should tell her as people can have different ways of communicating and perhaps you’re just not a texter like she is. if you’ve liked the dates you’ve been on with her just tell her and say what type of pace you want and then try and meet in the middle (compromise) on the pace that is set too.

like

Did you have sex already?

like

We haven’t yet.

I don't live on my phone. Some people can't understand that immediate replies are sometimes impossible, unless it's a life or death situation, which it never is.

like

Really depends on the dates. If you’ve spent like 15-20 hours together and did a lot of stuff and slept together, I don’t think it’s crazy.

If this was a coffee date and a lunch date and you’ve only talked for three hours? Yeah. Run.

OP posted and walked away 😂😂

Sorry lol. The bad texting thing was real haha

Run

She wants commitment before getting in bed with you. Normal.

Listen to I Ran by Flock of Seagulls. That's your answer

Related Posts

A good friend is looking for a Hispanic multicultural strategy/ planning director- based in NYC.

Hi There....Citi-zens.... Can someone help with referral in anti money laundering, Finance crime,KYC roles in SME & TL roles? I don't have the exact job codes

like
like

Hi, I got an offer letter from Accenture with DOJ 1st of March but my current organization release me on the 4th of march, in that case, what should I need to do as I have already sent a mail to HR to extend my offer letter till 6th of March and she agreed on that. Will they revoke my offer letter in this case or they will initiate my new offer letter? Need help

Just curious how others feel about teaching students to grid pictures as a means to draw them more accurately.
I grid my own work using photos/still life’s that I create

like

Who are your favorite non-Union VO talent agents that you reach out to for casting submissions?

like
like

General consensus: Should national elections be national holidays?

like

Anyone joining Netcracker Technology Corp. Gurgaon from outside in October? Looking for flatmate or roommate? I will be joining in last week of October.
Netcracker Technology Corp.

What is the health insurance policy of atos India...
Can we add parents in dependents as well?
From which date health insurance starts after joining.

Anyone out there do any Broadcast Operations work for live tv as a full-time job? If so, what are you making? I have trying to build a case for salary around $100k or in that range.

like

Hi Folks, I need urgent help because I'm in need to learn automation testing and coding. I want to apply in Google. How to prepare for the interview and what is the salary for 8 years experience resource in Google in Automation testing? Google
Google

like

How much should a creative director with 12 year experience get as pay?

like

What are tips/recommendations for a FET (frozen embryo transfer)? Any tests that you recommend should be performed? Any “home remedies” that should be applied? Some do/don’ts?

like

Joined a new firm at the start of this year but it’s not a good fit and I want to leave for a different role type. Will it look bad to potential employers if I leave this company after 6 months? I was with my prior employer for 2.5 years before this.

like

Currently a Wealth Advisor for Citi but I honestly hate it here with a passion it’s the worst company I’ve ever worked for in my life and I’ve been in Wealth Management in the banking channel for over a decade. Series 7, Series 63, Life, CFP, ChFC, and soon to have my MBA with a focus in Mergers & Acquisitions. I’m look to enter another area of Finance at this point instead of starting over somewhere else from scratch, but not sure what direction to go. Interested in Investment Banking or M&A.

Hello Everyone,

I have not shown my first company's experience in resume as I don't have experience or relieving letter. Will it affect my background verification. As I have provided the UAN no. and other details on Infosys launchpad.

like

Has UST Global opened any office in Kolkata?

Any insight on Aesthetic Medical Device Sales? Interviewing this week.

like

I have two offers in hand. KPMG and Deloitte. CTC is almost same whereas variable is more in KPMG. I am inclined towards Deloitte India. But HR in KPMG told me that I won't be able to join KPMG India in future as I accepted their offer. I informed her within 2 weeks and didn't do anything for onboarding. I didn't ask to increase the amount or JB and I strongly believe I informed early so they can look for other candidates. Is this bluff? Any HR here to clarify

like

Additional Posts in Relationships

What is the best way to attract a new mate? I got out of a 7 year relationship (he was cheating on me for half of it) and I’m so confused on where to even start. I have a therapist and working on my trust issues - but I have self confidence issues. I’ve been burned for being ‘unattractive’. But I’ve seen girls that are objectively more unattractive than me have mates. So it must be a confidence issue? Those girls seem to glow while I am so sad. Or it’s the guys I go on dates with?

like

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

like

This is not about dating, but about family relationships. I live far from my family and provably only see them once a year. They have been visiting for the past month and to go from not seeing them to seeing them so often has been an adjustment. I love them, but get so impatient with them and then I feel so guilty. Anyone else have this complicated dynamic with family?

like

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

like

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

like

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

like

Does anyone ever feel any insecurity about how they compare to their partner? Eg partner is smarter, hotter, more outgoing, etc

like

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

like

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

like

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

like

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

funnylikehelpful

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

like

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

like

So something crazy happened to me last week. I was at the airport, and as usual on call after call. The check in line was going ridiculously slowly and at some point turned threw my hands up in frustration while looking around to find another place to check in. In doing so, I catch the eye of the behind me. He smiles and says something. I just sort of nod and carry on with my call. After that, he keeps trying to talk to me, eventually I got to the check, say bye and leave. At security… tbc

like

Best part about being single: Not having to hold in my gas ! What is the best part of it for you??

likefunny

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

like

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

like

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

like

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

like

Is it a red flag if they’re an associate?

smart

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal