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don’t overthink - if you like her and she likes you that should be a good reason to go on another date ! I don’t think her having a type is a bad thing sounds like she was being flirty but if you are uncomfortable and won’t be able to look past the comment maybe it’s not a good match and that’s okay
Why not just ask her what SHE meant? Casually say you know I was thinking about what you said what exactly did you mean by that? That way there’s no confusion- I mean the whole point of dating is to get to know each other and you won’t do that by making assumption Or just cutting her off. best of luck !
This is like most asian girls though
It's not a fetish. White savior complex .. . maybe they are genuinely attracted to white men above all others.. they are not interested in their own ethnicity for whatever reason.. They think white is better
Congrats you are the most desired race of man.
Wait, you're a white guy who is concerned he's being fetishized by an Asian woman? That's new. Message her that. And if you get a second date you'll know she at the very least has a sense of humour.
How does her having a “type” equate to fetishizing? Most people have a “type.”
Welcome to the real world but asian girls like white men
Why is this a bad thing? Asian girls date white guys typically and white guys date asian girls. It’s a thing
Understandable, but the basis of those relationships are a racial difference. What if another white guy comes along? Will she leave me for him? Probably! If the only basis of the relationship is me being white. 😢
I encountered something similar when I was dating. Upon meeting, a women told me that she only went out with tall guys (she was a head shorter than me). I told her, " but you keep breaking up with them". She didn't understand, and I never saw her again.
You haven't told us if you like her as a person, or if you have a "type".
I’m looking for marriage and would like to find eternal love. I don’t want to be someone’s fetish or a self-esteem boost simply because of my race. I deserve to be loved for who I am.
If you are feeling hesitant and uncomfortable now, I’m not sure how it would work out long term. That’s a major dealbreaker issue that you are feeling uneasy about, it’s not exactly like a trivial difference in opinion on whether green is prettier than blue or vice versa.
You just have to be aware of this potential phenomenon with people from certain cultures, not necessarily just Asians. In this case it was easy because she admitted to it herself, but you could get a clue by asking indirectly on how they feel about cultural differences, if any. Most people will open up, especially if they overly prioritize one type of racial background or culture over others. They’ll tend to talk about it in an overly enthusiastic or stereotypically positive way, sometimes by talking negatively about others in the process. You just have to be very attentive in their answers.
You are overthinking it … if she’s interesting, smart, attractive just go with it. A linear regression will tell you she likes you.
Many people have a type. A fetish is for example a desire for feet or S&M. It’s only the first date let her in and get to know you.
Ask yourself is this a low self esteem issue on your part or are you looking for a reason to disqualify her.
A lot of asian women prefer white men, it bothers me some days but peoples relationship preferences are pretty personal. IME though my asian friends date way down as long as the guy is white. Its like white is 10 bonus bucks. But most of my asian friends prefer other asians.
Agree with all this but why do you think that is? A majority of Asian women prefer white men
I have girls that are looking for someone to date and marry, if you don't mind I can connect you to them...
No I don't do that please... They're all African ladies if you're interested I can only connect them to you and I can verge that they're real, no fake or scam
I’d like to say as one guilty of first dates being the odd girl blurting out bizarre things thinking that I’m complimenting them, try not to hold the poor girl accountable on the first date, especially if you guys are in your twenties… I feel for a lot of women we’re typically nervous as hell, and trying not to show it come off rude, prude, or weird, my social anxiety has made dating almost impossible, leading to clinging onto bad relationships far past their expiration date out of fear of these first dates complicated disappointments because someone didn’t want to be patient and judge the first date, sadly it takes me well over a handful dates to loosen up, I’d like to throw out an opinion of atleast 3 dates to really make that deal breaker decision, anyways hopefully you give the girl another try you just never know she might turn out the “one” 😊
I have 100% agree. When I was dating with an eye to being married, I would try to go on three dates to really get to know somone. Sometimes I knew after one date, but I went through with the other two as practice and to understand how I related to that person and what was really important to me in a partner. It helped me when I met the man who became my husband.
If you date an Asian girl, conversations around race and ethnicity will probably be more frequent just by the nature of her experience. I think it’s worth getting curious and just asking her why white men are her type. Your race isn’t all of who you are, but it definitely influences who you are and she’s drawn to that. You’ll see Asian stand up comics joke about this a lot, but there’s a status symbol when it comes to Asians dating interracially with white partners. It’s the quiet part that doesn’t get said out loud.
take me on a date lol i live in nyc . I work in insurance. I‘m 5’3. if interested lmk. lol I’m shooting my shot
Are you White, Asian, or a different race (not that there's anything wrong with that - if you catch the reference, I already like you).
Maybe she wants to be a home owner
I’m not sure I follow? Can you explain more?