Male here. I need some perspective. I have been seeing someone for a while (~4 months), we seem to connect in many ways but sexually. He always present, emotionally supportive and so on.
Recently, we discussed and he mentioned that he kind of finds other people more attractive but recently he has somewhat picked an interest. I told him that we should take a break for him to figure out what he wants and why he doesnt. But we keep texting each other and it’s hard to know if it’s worth continuing.

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Is sex important to you or him? If so, this relationship is doomed since the physical attraction isn’t mutual.

OP, I’d just find someone else. Up to you, obviously, but from what you’ve said, it doesn’t appear this will work. Best of luck, though. And I don’t think threesomes usually end well.

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Cont’d: He said everything is perfect cos we compliments ourselves in all apart from the sexual part. We are both VT btw and i can’t really stand the pain of bottoming unless once in a very blue moon but he said that’s not the reason. I really don’t know what to do - (i) i really like him but don’t think i want to be with someone that doesn’t really find me fuckable, (ii) i don’t know if i should cut all ties cos we’re both doing ourselves a disservice here

Just give him what he wants—an open relationship.

I think the answer is a threesome to steam it up but you’re also pretty early on in the relationship. I do this with my fiancé as we’re both mostly tops and it can really help w sexual chemistry if you set the right boundaries

What kind of ground rules do you set going into something like that? If you don’t mind me asking.

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Take a real break and don’t communicate. Allow yourselves to see how you are as people not dating each other and then maybe explore the sexual piece if you two reconnect.

At least a month I would think and if you can’t then probably a good sign that you two need to figure things out. You can just hang out with friends and not date during the break or take the chance to go on dates and get back in the social scene!

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I’m fine with my SO saying guys are attractive… but if he said it in a way that suggested he wasn’t that into me bc he wants someone more attractive i’d always be insecure. I’d be gone if this happened to me but that’s just me. You may be more secure than me.

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