My boss has always been extremely difficult and constantly makes rude remarks in a way that she tries to makes it come off as a joke. Deh wanted to change my schedule and I explained it would be a challenge as I’m a single mom and have young children. Her response was if I had children my job would still come first. What would you do in this situation? Bring it up to HR? Let it slide?

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Wow, that’s completely out of line. I’d document everything and bring it to HR, especially since it touches on parental discrimination. You shouldn’t have to choose between being a good parent and being a good employee. You deserve respect and flexibility, not guilt trips.

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If there is a good business reason for a schedule change, your personal familial situation shouldn't factor into it. Based upon what you wrote, it doesn't sound like any sort of discrimination. However, it does sound like you don't have a great relationship with your superior. Are there other positions, preferably with a different supervisor, that you could post for? Maybe just moving to another role at your company would be easier?

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If being an asshole were a crime, the prisons wouldn't have room for the murderers, rapists and robbers. Your best approach is to calmly explain, again, how you can fulfill the responsibilities of your position with your current schedule but not under the proposed one. If she insists with a "my way or the highway" ultimatum, ask her why the schedule needs to be changed. If she has a good reason, either try to make it work and keep the job or take the dispute to her superior or HR for resolution. If she wins, your days are numbered and you might want to ramp up a job search. If she loses, probably the same. Sorry. I hope I'm wrong. Your children's needs always come first. Of course, they also need you to be gainfully employed so they don't end up in a homeless shelter.

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Your children always come first! Having a boss that is not childhood friendly can prove challenging! Be a leader within your workplace through your voice and your actions. This can help inspire the overall trends of the office.

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