My ex husband was an extrovert and alcoholic. He went out with drinking buddies or anyone who would join him several times a week. We grew apart. Why is love so blind? It should have been obvious...

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You might have admired his extroverted side in the beginning. It is an easily recognizable strength for some people. The drinking is usually not as evident at first.

Hope you find a good match that makes you happy.

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