My husband and I have been separated for 7months.

I thought he was sober and getting his life back on track.

We met our son's doctor today and I could smell the alcohol coming out of his pores.

I don't want to fight anymore.

I am wary of leaving our son with him. He just turned 3.

Filing for marriage gc, does the sponsoring spouse require a copy of birth certificate or is passport fine?

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Anyone here can share experience with dating/relationships and weight-gain? I am not obese, but definitely overweight. I lead a relatively healthy life but know I can do more. However, I find that my weight keeps me from socializing, meeting new people and dating. How can I improve my self-esteem?

Is it necessary to produce Physical fitness certificate and eye fitness certificate in the given Excel format itself? Do I need to carry the printout to doctor to fill that form?

IFV recommendations in Boston anyone? A Reproductive Endocrinologist the most - but reccs on any and all members of a health team/other tips welcome. Wide and I are about to begin this journey =/

Anyone just out of first trimester struggling with sciatica pain on right side? It’s excruciating and not sure how to alleviate - I read up on some stretches?

Any recommendations to avoid feeling sleep towards the end of the work day? 3-5 PM I start doing the famous head bob if you know what I mean 🤣

Those living in 1960s & 1970s homes, how do you overcome the fear of asbestos in home materials even though the home has been updated. Any tips overcome the worry? Not yet tested for asbestos

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

Husband and I are planning to rent a car (we wipe the entire inside and handles down with bleach wipes) and drive to a state over (only 5 hours, no pit stops) to pod up with my parents for a month or two. We will be wearing masks and social distancing with my parents until everyone is tested and confirmed negative. My husband goes to the grocery store once a week, other than that we do not interact with others and have taken the pandemic very seriously. Is this a bad idea? Second guessing myself

What are your thoughts on those who refuse to wear cloth masks as a healthcare professional?

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

Does anyone have any recommendations for egg retrieval in the Boston area? I’ve heard great things about Boston IVF and CCRM, but would love to get additional opinions. CCRM seems a lot newer, while Boston IVF seems much more well-established.

Wow. This may be the first time in history that the President of the United States is poorer than the average person. Hope he keeps food stamps and the ACA intact since he looks like he’ll be needing them soon

Thinking of getting a peloton. Anyone actually experience weight loss and overall health improvement from having one?

I make excuses for not going to the gym and the number 1 being convenience so I figure if it’s in my actual home then I have no excuses!

Be nice, thanks! 😊

What's your favorite thing about being a physician? With all the stress and heavy stuff we deal with, it's nice to reflect on the positives sometimes...

What will be the inhand salary at tcs on 10 lpa

Been 3 months since I joined Luxoft and I am assigned to a backward DXC project. The lead is oppressive and bossy. There is no work-life balance and 9:30 hours of work is not enough for them. My probation period is going to end soon. Should I inform my Luxoft manager and tell him to change my project right now ? Or shall I wait for him to end my probation period ?
DXC Technology Luxoft

I applied for a job within my unit that I do not qualify for. Now, I have an interview for this job. Me knowing I do not meet most of the qualifications for this position has my imposter syndrome thinking I shouldn’t even do this interview because it would be a waste of time. Has anyone felt this way?

What is the responsibility of an OB hospitalist to advocate for or against sterilization (specifically tubal litigation) if any? I had a very controversial experience with an OB that made me wonder how much we should be trying to influence our patients' decisions "in their best interest." ETA: I'll share more details once I see some responses. I don't want to cloud anyone's gut-reaction opinion.

I’m trying to cultivate discussion oriented DEI spaces, any topical themes that would make fun and engaging discussions?

About to join McKinsey as a post-MBA associate. Any seasoned consultants willing to provide advice for how to ensure a successful start?

Anyone else on the Broomfield side of Westminster up to get drinks sometime?

Hi everyone, I’m in asset management at a real estate firm with 2 years of experience in my current role and 5 total years of experience in finance. What should my comp range be?

Hi everyone, Anybody knows about IndiaMart and it’s work culture as Devops engineer?

What is the heirachy for the accounting and finance teams at American Express? Is Director pretty much the equivalent of Manager in other companies?

Tips on Boston fertility clinics? So far looking between Boston IVF and MGH. (Also cross posting to fertility bowl but thought I’d try here for the Boston fish)

Cross posted: Has anyone ever heard of this type of real estate private equity fund structure:

-One LLC, so only one PPM
-Multiple investors that can be onboarded anytime
-Multiple investments that investors can determine whether or not they want to invest in
-One K-1 per investor based on their investments and income
-Ability for the Sponsor/Fund to invest directly, indirectly and in equity, debt, Pref, etc.
To me this seems extremely cumbersome and would require multiple classes of (cont’d)

Manager at Cap Invent (Consulting). Deloitte Consulting offering same grade with 13% increase in base salary with TC (bonus incl.) getting to around 95k.

Thoughts?

Looking for a new opportunity. 3 YOE as a PM 1 YOE in front end development at a large VMS B2B software company with measured results. Very interested in FAANG or other big tech anyone willing to connect or refer?

Visited Deloitte Towers today. Huge queue in cafeteria. Looks like every one is working on Tuesday and Thursday

What are you all doing to upskill as the geniuses in AI development fast track our demise? Any plans? I constantly fantasize about going back to school and going down a comp sci path maybe even PhD

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Had a really bad day 😞 I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. Things will be going well and then out of nowhere I get blackout drunk. I am tired of feeling sick and anxious from drinking. I don’t really even want to drink sometimes but do it anyway. Blacked out last night, and still feel sick now. I’ve never shared with anyone that I have this problem, until I found this message board. I have so much anxiety that I won’t be able to get this under control. I feel isolated and sad.

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

Have any of you found it worthwhile to think about why you are an addict? Care to share?

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Pause. Breathe. Proceed.
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Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.