Anyone here can share experience with dating/relationships and weight-gain? I am not obese, but definitely overweight. I lead a relatively healthy life but know I can do more. However, I find that my weight keeps me from socializing, meeting new people and dating. How can I improve my self-esteem?

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Are you straight and male or female? As a female I will tell you I am way more attracted to a good personality than a fit body (unless you’re Dwayne Johnson). Being overweight is not a turn-off and should not impact your confidence.
If you’re a female I would say dress in a way that makes you feel attractive and confident. I’ve never been confident in my body despite being above average looking (nice body and face) and have been around women much less attractive than me but know how to strut their stuff and get a lot of male attention. Wear red lipstick too.

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To add to what ASM1 said, you’d be surprised at how many super hot, super fit people are very insecure. I think for most people (including myself), a great personality is what makes a person most attractive. Obviously looks matter initially, but if you dress nicely, carry yourself with confidence (even if you have to fake it at first), and have a killer personality, you’re going to get positive attention. Also, speaking from experience, you might be the only one who sees your weight as a negative thing. We’re our own harshest critics so I wouldn’t doubt that most people see you as a full-figured woman or stocky guy (sorry, not sure if you’re F or M), both of which are very attractive to a lot of people.

Re. you living a healthy lifestyle but knowing you can do more, what does your healthy lifestyle consist of? Are you trying to lose a little weight or do you just want to feel more comfortable at your current weight?

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Have you ever noticed how people you like are better looking than people you don’t like? That when you get to know somebody you start noticing all these physical attributes you didn’t notice before? How people you dislike have all these physical flaws and people you like have all these physical attributes?

Every body has parts that are sexy and every body has parts that aren’t perfect. The people who like you will only see the parts that are sexy. The person or people you are meant to be with will honestly think you the hottest thing on the planet. They will fall in love with who you as a person and they will fall in love with every part of your body as well. The way you smile or wrinkle your nose will make them feel all warm and gooey inside. The curve of your butt or strength of your shoulders will make them weak at the knees. If they’re creative they may write songs or poems about the ‘Shape of You’ or ‘The Way You Move’. If they are analytical they may explain to you and others why you’re so sexy using an attractiveness formula. The point is, you will be sexy to the right people and the people that matter.

I know it’s much easier to say than do, but relax and let go of your fears. Be proud of who you are as a person and be proud of your body, especially all the sexy bits!

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I think we all know an obese dude that somehow managed to land a badass hottie without relying on a fat bank account. So it's definitely possible.

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