My husband is the only son to three sisters and he is the only one married. The dynamic is hard. They don’t understand why he has to confer with me about activities for the family. In fact they said: I run him, why do we have to include her ( we partner but I handle social calendar like they do with their own kids) , I’m stealing him from them, and other wild things. The fathers of their children aren’t really involved which I think makes the collaboration piece hard to grasp. Any suggestions?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Move away. And I’m not even playing. Black women who have had unhealthy relationships see their brothers or sons as pseudo husbands. Make yourself out of sight out of mind. They are determined to undermine you, your family dynamic and this narrative that you are demanding and controlling is them projecting because you don’t allow them to demand and control him. I would be looking for jobs elsewhere and when I get an offer I’d be like, “babe I got this great opportunity let’s discuss”. These women will never change, they will never accept you and they will never respect you.

likefunny

No cap, my husband is latino and his family is always throwing events and the expectations to attend all of them was getting out of hand. We moved states and my life has been so much more peaceful 😂

like

How does he feel about this? He knows his sisters so he should have some ideas and know what a realistic outcome could be.

I’m not saying he shouldn’t tell you what his sisters say about you but playing telephone with a family often causes more drama than it’s worth.

likesmart

Lol calm down. It’s just an app.

like

That's exactly why they're not married 😅

like

If it is not a problem for your husband, I wouldn’t give it much thought. I agree with your family dynamic.

like

This is a problem your husband should see fit to fix.

like

I would ignore them. They don’t know what it’s like being married.

likehelpful

I don’t agree with moving. You’d be running from a problem and letting them run your life. Wild words are going to uproot your life?

Control the controlables. You can’t control what they say, do or think. You can control how you respond. Are you and your husband on the same page? Is he telling you these things? Tell him you don’t want to know and sorry they feel that way but that’s how it works in your family! What are they gonna do? Talk more ish? Who cares. Let them.

If they’re rude and nasty to you, tell your husband you don’t want to see them again/until they change their attitude. Let him go see them by himself.

You’re caring too much what they say and think. You should listen to Mel Robbins podcast when she talks about the “let them theory”.

likeupliftinghelpful

I agree to move far away. It helps lol holidays only

like

Ignore them. Crabs in a barrel.

Related Posts

Any recommendations for the best cities in Europe to visit with young kids (5, 2, 0)? Looking for a week after visiting Paris or London

like

Fish I need some help and advice. I fell off the wagon last weekend (sober two years and change with alc) and I cheated on my SO of three years. We live together and she has been by my side through

like

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

like

I love my SO. We’ve been together for nearly a decade and are talking marriage. I know being with him though will require living far from my family. I love my family and dread the thought of being far from them. My SO has been transparent about wanting to return to his home country. I don’t want to lose him but I also dread being far from my family. What’s the right call here? Fwiw he’s lived in my home country for about a decade now but has been able to visit his pretty easily (cont)

like

Anyone here ever had to explain to their family that they want kids, but they’re not interested in marriage? Women especially?

She doesn't know the real reason why I'm lukewarm about kids: I don't think she's matured enough. I'm trying to plan for retirement and a house, but all she wants is her next overseas vacation

like

At my uncles wedding in Madrid I remember lying down on the grass in the courtyard after their first dance and crying, my Dad came and saw me, laid down in his suit beside me and asked what was wrong.

“I know my boyfriend wouldn’t dance with me like that at our wedding”

And we just lay there as I cried, and then got up. Had a drink.

Said boyfriend left years ago, and now I have a wonderful man who just asked me what type of dance lessons I want for our wedding next year.

Don’t give up.

likeupliftingfunny

People whose spouses work in time consuming jobs like doctors and lawyers how the eff do you tend to your home life? My kitchen looks like an animal attacked it.

like

Last night I slept over my boyfriend’s apt. We are sexually active together but this time he woke up at 4/5am and started fingering me and eating me out. I was somewhat awake but I don’t know how to feel about this. Thoughts?

likefunny

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

like

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

like

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

like

What does your spouse think of your job? Do they understand what you do?

like

Just moved in. How do you make friends in this place?

like

Struggling to contain my kiddos this year. I have a very rowdy group of boys who struggle to stay focused on literally anything!!! We are starting an RTI program and need advice on how to keep them busy and quite when I meet with individual students. HELP 🤣

like

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

likefunny

My firstborn is due in just over a month! Was wondering if anyone can provide any tips or insight for a first time parent!

like

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

like

My wife and I just had our second child, and we have also been dealing with her cervical cancer diagnosis. It has been a stressful year, to say the least. I want to do something nice for her, but money is tight right now because of the cancer treatment costs, and her being on unpaid leave because of the cancer treatments. What is something low cost I can do that will be a nice “couples thing” so we can de-stress, but also make her feel special?

like

More Posts

Hi,

Please help me in getting 11 likes to unlock dm.

Thanks

like

My boss is always making last minute changes to my schedule. Adding shifts or asking me to cover for other people. Any advice on how to handle this? I want to be a team player but the last minute changes stress me out.

like

Hi Everyone,

TCS asks for all semrester results??.. or Final semester results with all semester grade is enough??

Thanks in advance

like

Hello, Looking for Senior Consultant/ Lead advisory role. Having 6+ experience in Information security. Certification in CISA, CISM and AWS CCP

like

Hi,

I have experience of 3+ years in HR recruitment and employee services....looking for any openings in HRBP associate role.

Please share any open positions that I can apply for.

Thanks and regards.

like

When emailing someone for an interview for the first time do you address them by Mr/Mrs last name or by their first name?

like

Any Canadian company that has a good in-house agency?

like

What’s the difference between a 750, 760 and 770. I just took for first time and got 750. I’m confident I can bump it up. Is it worth retaking or is there no measurable advantages of 10 extra pts

like

Is the average freelance rate in a pandemic same/higher or lower? Wondering what I should charge in nyc right now. Pls lmk, thanks!

like

For the 🐠 that have traveled to Egypt, can I get some recommendations on tour companies? I’m traveling with my partner (two females) and would like to have something arrange. 🙏

like
like

What is the average salary for director Morgan Stanley india ? How is wlb and job security?

like

Anyone in here with a masters degree on the business side of entertainment? What type of salary do you usually negotiate for as a coordinator or manager or director?

like

Folks ..what do u like about BA continuum ...I have joined recently and couldn't find a single good thing about this org...be it onboarding, no laptop provided ..and goodies toh i made a big mistake by expecting..why is BofA so overrated ??..

like

Favorite halal restaurant in Boston? Help a Muslim brother out 😅

likesmart

Hey All,
I finished a third round interview, and HR contacted me that afternoon saying I had positive feedback across the board and they would contact me the next day regarding next steps. It’s been two days and they finally get back to me saying they haven’t been able to sync with the hiring manager but will keep me posted. Honestly I wish they would talk with the hiring manager and then let me know the decision instead of checking in. It’s messing with my emotions.

How is it to work in dialpad as an automation engineer?

like

Just made the move from a wirehouse to join an RIA! So excited!

likehelpful

Any thoughts on TD Ameritrade Institutional as a custodian? Used to NFS/Fidelity, TDA seems much more efficient and user friendly.

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal