My husband just came out as bisexual to me, and told me he realised this only last month (we’ve been married 2 yrs; dated 5 yrs). And while he assures me that our relationship won’t change, I sense that somewhere down the line he may want to explore a relationship with a man (he hasn’t yet). He also got diagnosed with hepatitis recently(which is STD) but insists that the doctor told him he was born with it.
Am I overthinking everything? Not even sure about the answers I am looking for here.

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I’m sorry OP, that must be tough to hear. I think your questions and feelings are valid, and it’s normal to wonder if he will want to explore that side of his sexuality. It’s not overthinking, these are legit thoughts.

Depending on the type of hepatitis, it’s possible to have it from birth but I’d be surprised he wasn’t aware sooner if that was the case. Other types and be transmitted sexually.

One of the men that pursued me in college, later came out as gay. He later confessed that he explored sexual relationships with men while he was in a relationship. There was a lot of denial, confusion and mixed feelings going on for him hence why he wasn’t honest.

I also have a woman friend who is bixsexual and married to a man, and brings other women into their bedroom. Her husband doesn’t mind.

I don’t think anyone can guess what’s on your husbands mind or predict what will happen. I think you should keep being very honest with each other.

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I think it entirely depends on the person, but I don’t think he’s necessarily more likely to cheat with a man than he already was with a woman.
I have a female friend who realized she was bisexual after getting married (at a young age), but she loves her husband and hasn’t acted on it.

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It's understandable to start thinking about things but noone can say but him what this means.

I am a woman a s came out to my husband a couple of years ago and literally nothing changed except he knew something new about me.

It didn't mean I wanted to chase women or have three ways. I just thought I'm this was something my spouse should know.

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Exactly.

Bi doesn't mean 'wants an open relationship' or that they will cheat.

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It all depends on you . If you are ok with his sexuality and if by that it means he is going to have other partners while in a marriage with you.
His hepatitis should have been know before it it was from birth and if he’s infectious , you are trying to guess if it was his more recent giant that got him the diagnosis.
One of my friend is Bi , his girlfriend knows it and he hasn’t really acted on it by cheating physically after they have been together , they seem ok with him being bi .
Also it just doesn’t mean that someone’s sexuality means they will be messing around , many people adhere to their values of being loyal to the partner , some couples are ok brining outside entities in their relationship and some don’t and there are some sleazy ones they hide and they cheat .
It’s all what works for you and how you
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Thanks everyone.
My partner is reassuring me that it’s a piece of his identity but he doesn’t intend to seek other relationships. I am going to trust him with this, because I am sure it took courage to come out to me.
Here’s to hoping it doesn’t affect our relationship.

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Perfect opportunity to become a throuple

There are different types of hepatitis, some can be transmitted sexually or by bodily fluids (sharing needles)

You can get diagnosed with congenital hepatitis B when you're born, which isn't a sexual transmission. HBV stays in your blood forever and can lie dormant and reactivate.

However, idk what story he told the doctor because it also could be transmitted sexually.

I just hope he tells you the full truth and his full truth.

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Idk. Seems like he’s testing the waters on your level of acceptance as he slowly asks for an open relationship 😬. I’d start thinking about how you feel about an unconventional marriage.

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Can you confirm with him what is the hepatitis type and check with a doctor if this is the hepatitis that isn’t s$$$ transmitted?

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Proceed with caution. I bet if you took a look at his phone you would find messages and apps and things you wouldn’t approve of. Seeks individual and couples counseling.

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Trust your instincts!

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You can be born with STDs?

There are 3 types of Hepatitis, thought only one is likely to be sexually transmitted. Hepatitis is more prevalent in impoverished countries.

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OP, you’re husband isn’t Maybelline, he wasn’t born with it.

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