My sister in law is married to a trashy family. My wedding is in 19 days. Her mother in law treats her very poorly and they are not on good terms, as well as her sister in law. Her husband is not taking her side as much as he should, and I am falling in the middle.
Whenever she takes a stance, her husband blames her. Now she is asking me to seat her in laws at our family table in my wedding because she is worried her husband would be pissed off the entire wedding if we don’t do that.

I'd love to see stats on divorce rates in NYC Big Law vs. general population

Let’s say you have two young, high income partners in a couple who want to buy a house together but don’t really care to get married. They already live together in an apartment but both want to move to a house to build equity and have a yard, not share walls, etc. Should one partner buy the house and the other pays rent until they get married, or should they get a mortgage together without being married? I realize there isn’t a “right” answer but I’m interested in people’s experiences here.

I’m mid 30s F. Recently started seeing this guy, where he is “good enough”. Good conversations, decent time together, he has a good heart, but nothing about him shines. - not fit (I work out everyday and play sports), meh social skills (he doesn’t have best friends, just few he hangs out with), bit less energy than me.
There is a feeling in me that says “he’s going to be a comfortable life partner” and “he is just good enough, but if I break up I won’t find someone for a long time”
Do I stay?

Mom of two here (21 month old and 5 month old) who is starting to consider having a third. I am in my late 30’s and my doctor just recommended I start trying at 6 months postpartum. I am thinking I want to start closer to 8-10 months postpartum but have no idea what to expect with a third. Is anyone in a similar situation? Moms or Dads of two, do you ever look back and wish you had tried for three? Moms or Dads of three, how was the transition from two to three and how much did life change?

My SO told me that if I begin my answer to one more of her questions this week with "it depends", she is going to slap the shit out of me. Can't say I blame her, it is probably really annoying.

Anyone marry their law school sweetheart?

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

Wife is twelve weeks pregnant. Just found out we’re having our third boy.

Any other lonely social workers in here? I mean a lot to some of the people on my caseload but that's about it. Don't have any family near me and it's hard to make friends with non-SW's mostly just because I'm too tired after work to want to do much. Do you spend most of your time alone or is your social time self care for you? Just feel like I don't have a support system!

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Looking for perspective: Did money play a role in evaluating whether someone could be your life partner?

Tips for helping kids stay on task during zoom? Our little class (9 kids) has been doing zoom circle times twice a week but I noticed they are really distracted. Also every meeting a kid leave...

If you loved your small independent broker dealer but they had just been acquired by a much larger corporation which does have benefits in terms, mostly, in technology, but you lose your “family” in the home office, what would you do and who would you look at if you were considering a change of your own?

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

How to be an exceptional buddy to my intern?

In a serious relationship for the first time since starting with the firm. Advice on how to balance career and personal life? I promote to manager this fall and want to succeed in both realms

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

I don’t feel connected to my parents at all. After spending 15 years here, I am unable to connect to their extreme right nationalist views and the extra emphasis on the connection to our roots.

Question: I am pro choice but only up to the end of the 2nd trimester. I think after that, it's getting to gray territory that I can't support. My friends say this a really anti feminist view. What am I doing wrong?

Any place to go few hours drive from Austin? Have a 3.5 yo so want to keep it enjoyable/relaxing for us at the same time keep the kiddo engaged and happy. We just need a good change of scene.

Any men’s haircut recommendations in the 14th & U area?

Is the marginal value of a second clerkship truly worth the opportunity cost? Is the first? Obviously SCOTUS is a different story, but what's wrong with doing one district or one appellate only?

Anyone marry their law school sweetheart?

Insurance Defense: Do your paralegals bill on your behalf? Or do they have their own billables? Reason I ask is because I would like to start billing more discovery (Drafting / Reviewing/ etc). Currently my paralegal bills almost all of the discovery (save for depositions). Wondering how I approach my boss and tell him something is off here.

Amazon peeps... What base compensation adjustment would you expect after performance reviews?

My marketing people - does anyone else's company have a dedicated "Marketing Response Team" (MRT Team)? Or something similar? Might be called something else at other companies and I just have no clue.

How much are you all paying for yard work and house help in the bay area? New to the city. New house. And no time to take care of these. But also worried about spending too much

Hi Guys,

Can I get some likes on my post as I need 11 likes to start having one on one chat in this forum. Thanks in Advance

Hi all,
I am currently serving my notice period and actively looking for better opportunities.
I already have 2 years of experience in python and Deep learning. I have also done my Master's in Artificial Intelligence specialization and have strong knowledge in Machine learning, NLP, and Computer Vision.
Do let me know if anyone can refer me to the above-mentioned profile. I would be open to having a conversation to discuss further for any open position. I look forward hearing from you.

How do you discuss deals that are still in progress (for interviews) without giving away confidential information?
Particularly a buy-side deal, bidding rounds are still in progress

currently tossing up between staying at a global company (who is in the process of some positive changes) with an amazing manager who supports my career and flexible working … however comes with the inherit issues that come with a long standing global company

compared with a role at a smaller mga, higher salary (around 30%) more , more visibility career wise and some great employee benefits , management seem to be supportive and low staff turnover

which would you choose here

Current REMOTE employees. What virtual team-building activities has your company done to bring everyone together and keep everyone engaged in a virtual setting?

By anyvchance does ZS sponsor professional financial courses like FRM,CFA?

Anyone got the skinny on Alix consulting?

Got pinged by a recruiter for an MD role in digital transformation

He claims they compete with MBB and Alvarez.

Thoughts?

Hello Amex Fishes,
Can someone please help me with what to expect in 2nd round of interview for product development analyst? Thanks in Advance!

Does anyone work for Capgemini invent? Got a call from a recruiter but looking for more details

Just ordered a pizza. Another thrilling night in with the bf. What's everyone else up to?

My girlfriend of 4 years routinely gets so angry at me in the form of “triggers.” She has childhood trauma from her terrible parents. I’ve gone to therapy with her to learn techniques to help, but when I do them during one of her triggers she says I didn’t do them. Later I’ll learn that she’s literally does not remember things I say and do when she’s in a dissociated state. Tonight it was because I didn’t get her oil changed like I said I would. Now she’s threatening to break up because idk how

I am so tired of my sister and mom, and the pressure they apply on me to get married, 32 year old female and I have not met someone yet. I was in a relationship last year for a year and he turned out to be a very mean person and they now don’t trust me at all and want me to marry the first nice guy I go on a date with even if I have no attraction at all, and if I go on a couple of dates and I don’t feel it, they question my judgement. I feel like dying from the pressure.

It’s my birthday in a few minutes. 2021 has been a terrible year for me. My marriage ended. It wasn’t a bad end though. We are still close, just not romantic partners anymore. The very first dog I ever had died and I couldn’t go see her because of the quarantine. I didn’t get a promotion that I more than deserved. I don’t think I get paid well. Most of my friends moved out of the city and I’m having to meet new people at 32. I love my job but it’s incredibly stressful. I’m terribly lonely.

One of ex’s friends who is I met twice, has been in touch, him and his wife, like commenting on some of my posts occasionally (we are just fb friends and IG friends). I never saw them since. Then the friend texts asking if I am seeing someone and that he wants to set me up with someone. He felt awkward doing that, I thanked him for thinking of me, but then he said we all told your ex he is an idiot for letting you go and they asked my ex it they could still be touch with me and he said yes.

I want to spend $10k on a cruise to Antarctica. My wife doesn’t want to go and doesn’t think I should spend the money either. I make 200k and she makes 65k. I worked hard to get a 37k hot skill bonus from all the certs I studied for. We are recently married. I’m discouraged because I feel like I can’t save and spend my money the way I did before. I know marriage is supposed to be united financially, but since we are recently married it’s tough to give up my freedom financially. Advice?

How do you know if you have good hygiene? my ex told me I don’t

This is my routine:
- I have curly hair, can only wash it once a week/put dry shampoo if needed
- I brush my teeth 2 times a day
- Wear deodorant / perfume every day (my way, and good girl) and shave off any hair (I did laser but still), as much as possible. Some days, I cannot keep up with shaving (especially if it won’t show)
- I wear pantyliners and change it once a day/ change panties once a day
- I shower my body every day

I have been in the US from Canada on contract for the past 6 months. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married and move here permanently in the fall. She has now called off the wedding, and has told me she doesn’t want me to move to the states. I got a great offer. Great job. Don’t want to lose the love of my life but I feel played. I worked so hard for this. She’s ripping out my heart, and taking my livelihood away. Am I wrong to not abide by her choice? Ask for the ring back?

Ladies of fishbowl, question. Girl says she wants to get drinks as friends, but is persistent in getting your number to text. Overthinking or is there something behind this? I’m also good friends with her current landlord/roommate.

Alright so I have been with my partner for several years and recently she said that she wants to get married. Im Happy with what we have now and don't feel the need to get married. Why do people get married? People all around us are getting married and engaged and I feel like that is weighing on her but when we drown all that out and it's just us we are happy!

So my partner and I been dating for 5 months. But he's a man of literally very few words. What can I do to connect with him on deeper level, or any suggestions of questions I should ask him? To get know him better or to open up

Made an appointment with my therapist to talk through the issues in my relationship. Coronavirus has been rough on us