Neurodiverse young attorney here (soon to be in my 4th year of practice). Neurodiverse attorneys, how do you deal with the “follow the rules” vs. “use your common sense” balancing act? Specifically with office culture and partner expectations, not the law part. I feel like I’m constantly trying to know the rules and expectations and follow them. But when I do follow them, I get told it’s less about the rules and more using your common sense. It’s confusing. All thoughts and guidance appreciated.

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

I just finished a big jury trial with a senior partner (SP). There were co-parties w/separate counsel. SP mentally checked out, to the point that co-counsel was asking what SP was doing/if SP was okay. I ended up handling most everything. SP did a few parts but went rogue and did things that were offensive/risky/bad for client. It became clear that SP is not performing like SP used to and may be a liability. Do I tell someone at my firm? Don’t want to offend SP or cause drama, but I’m concerned.

I’m a new associate working for a well-known defense attorney in my state. On one hand, I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn from one of the best, but he also excoriates and belittles me for my mistakes. Any advice on how much it tolerable? I am here to learn and advance my career but he can be pretty nasty. (My mistakes are no worse than you’d expect a 1st year associate to make, in case you’re all wondering if I’m a major screw-up who deserves it) I leave work feeling a foot tall.

I recently took a new role (going on 4 months) and I’m struggling to feel connected. I’m an HR team of 2 and my VP and I get along but I’m missing the team environment. I loved my prior company and team and want to go back. I’m worried if I reach out how this will be received. 😬

What do you tell your CEO who wants ROI on PR campaigns?

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

What is the best way to attract a more diverse community to my company?

I work with quite a few oldheads in my department, I’d like to know how to convince the higher-ups that we need to evolve our strategies to bring us in line with best current practices. However, I don’t want to act out of line or be disrespectful since this is my first role and I have less than a year here.

How do you address someone who seems condescending? We’ve never met in person, and they’re slightly more senior, on a parallel team. (Not at TBWA)

Senior revving up to manager promo. Only nervous about one thing at the manager level which is having to answer pointed “Why??” questions from higher up clients on live calls. Any one else work through something like this? I’d appreciate any tips or suggestions as I really suck at dealing with unexpected push back.

Small firm partner. Thoughts on exploring something personal with a professional contact wherein I/my law firm is the client?

Someone provides us services that for purposes of this post, I’ll describe as marketing. My firm pays their firm to provide us services with the aim of our law firm bringing in new clients.

Came across the owner of that business on one social dating site/app, but their profile disappeared without me taking any action. Their profile popped up on a different app/service

Hi. People Manager here. I've been one for 12 years now and I encourage my team to not be "yes" people. At this time, it feels like my manager wants me and my team to be yes people for her. How do I deal with this? I've never been a yes person and I don't preach this to my reports. I don't know what to do. Help?

I started working for a new law firm, much larger than the firm I was working for previously. The main attorney that I work under had noticed some mistakes I was making (I am a NY paralegal who took this position with the understanding that they’d be teaching me NJ and NYC real estate). Anyways, the attorney decided to tell the HR manager about the mistakes I had been making. Rather than HR discussing with me, the manager told my dramatic coworker to tell me..how should I handle this? Very hurt!

Any embarrassing moments so far in your first projects?

I have several job offers I am considering. My dilemma is when I put my resignation in for my current employer should I tell them why I’m leaving? (Toxic environment passive aggressive behavior from superiors
And staff that habitually didn’t do their job thoroughly and I was prohibited from writing them up?) thoughts?

Females, how much of your personal life do you disclose to the men in your team? I.e. Lovers, relationships, ONS etc

Is anyone willing to share tips on avoiding burnout and setting boundaries with their executives? I have six people on my desk and am finding it difficult to stay motivated and continue giving everyone the same level of support.

Single black female. Late 30s, no kids. Is it better to practice in a smaller market that’s close to major cities, lots of professional opportunities, but no real single professional scene? OR be in a bigger pond/major city with more professional and networking opportunities, oversaturated with lawyers of color, more competition for professional opportunities, but bigger dating pool?

Starting a new fully remote role Monday with a leader that has never had their own admin, let alone an exec assistant. Any suggestions for developing the relationship or training them to properly use an exec assistant?

Entry level staff: what made/ would make you happy at work, that a senior can do to make you feel welcome and appreciated?

Any single girls in Bangalore?

Anyone commuting from Midtown Toronto to Mississauga for work and willing to carpool??

I have often wondered if being honest when I fill out EEOC / diversity forms if that limits me from new work / promotions. I used to be able to hide my disability, but it is progressive so now it's not as easy to hide. Thoughts?

Where’s the best place to watch sunset around downtown Chicago?

Anyone know how to get a position as an HRBP without HRPB experience? All positions I've looked at want previous experience. Would over 5 years of HR experience and a PHR suffice, or what skills should be added to that?

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Hi - I am having to move from the US to London due to Visa issues. Exploring relevant strategy consulting roles @ MBB / T2s following 3Y of management consulting focused on operations @ a boutique firm in NYC. What is the best way to get started with this ? Any good recruiters you would recommend ? Or referrals? Happy to share my profile. PS - I have UK work auth so won’t require sponsorship.

I’m an MBA with 1.5 YOE. Signed with PwC as Exp. associate in Deals-Valuation starting in June 2022, Philly office. Initial offer was 79k and I got email about 5% bump… does anybody know if I’ll be getting the additional 10%?

How to ask a company for counter offer (means how to sentence it correctly)?

I do have multiple offers and want to match the maximum amount with the company that I want to join.

Please share your valuable inputs.

Why are so many moving from CSR to CSP. I get that the fee is significantly higher for the former, but how are benefits better for the latter?

Esper and Milley need to resign. They serve at the pleasure of the President, not to subvert his authority

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I got a offer of 26lpa(23.5 fixed and 2.5 variable) from genpact and 21 lpa (20 fixed , 1 joining) from epam, not sure which one should I join. Please if someone can advice me which i should join keeping ressession in mind. Thanks in advance@

How many people here wants to switch job, but can’t due to current market scenario or GC process ?

Comment 1 for current market scenario.
Comment 2 for GC process.

How is the onsite opportunities in the coforge..?

HR called me and said this position is for onsite once the border gates are open...? Can i believe HR words..?
I am interested in Onsite opportunities.

"censors, critics, and cynics!" Trump's a poet!

Do PwC and KPMG allow Mega Back Door Roth with their 401K plan? Wanted to confirm.

Hi All, can anybody give an insight on Homeloan divison in CBA and also regarding the recruitment process in CBA..

Today we had an agency talent show. Last year I MC’d it while slamming whiskeys between acts. I got great reviews for my on the fly wit. This year I was asked to do it again... (cont.)

I am a 25-year-old first year associate fresh out of law school at a small civil litigation firm. I went to a good law school and work hard. I’ve been in this position for about 5 months now and I keep messing up. Losing track of tasks. I have never felt dumber. Any advice? Should I be doing better at this point? I’m a licensed attorney!! Is this normal?

Hi, anyone else end up in civil litigation and not really understand how you ended up here or why you actually kind of love it here? Even though you have to fight it back like a deeply established weed so you have some semblance of an individual life?

Just finished watching Downfall, call me naive but it amazes me how not one person got jail time.

Do any of you have side-jobs or maybe hobbies that you make money from? Alternatively, what do you think sounds like a good one to look into?

Partner keeps telling me (2nd year) that I need to get better at using staff like paralegals to reduce client costs.....but doesn't realize that the only paralegal allocated to my group has been with the firm for 30 years and bills 1.5x higher than me.

Has anyone left law completely and never looked back? I’m looking into a huge pay cut going to be an EMT, but I’d rather be happy than miserable.

Ah yes, the recurring partner message on a Sunday afternoon to f*ck up what’s left of my weekend

Nothing like the named partner who you *know* is actively opposed to associate salary increases (despite living in a market where the COL has significantly risen and outpaced general inflation) telling you about how annoying it is to winterize her 4 mega luxury sailboats she has on her waterfront dock. 🙄

Any tips on leaving a firm “correctly”? Was about to go “of counsel” with my firm of 6 years, but then another firm whose partners I really respect (and personally like) offered me a partnership position. I predict my current bosses will *flip* (cut off file access immediately, try to beat me to calling my clients, etc.), so how do I set myself up for a successful transition?

Anyone have an iMac for WFH? If so, how do you like it?

Anybody know if and how much I can contribute to my Roth IRA to reduce my 2020 tax liability? I’m trying to pay less taxes but Jesus this pandemic has been great for my law firm and salary.

Anyone else use their laptop in a deposition instead of a pad and pen?

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Anyone able to provide info on market comp for biglaw 5th-year in the Midwest (non-Chicago)?

How do you deal with tech-illiterate colleagues? A partner and a couple associates at my firm are so out-of-touch with tech and they're always asking me for help. I want to be helpful, but I also have actual work to get done.

Quick temperature check: litigators, are you all underwater this month? This has been my busiest end of year season in actual years. I am getting slammed with expedited court deadlines from judges every, single, day. Clerks, what’s going on?! Send help.

What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed but still need to bill and meet deadlines?

I have created a bowl for those who want to know more about their potential new firm - ask anonymously and hopefully someone within the firm will respond! Or we can help find the right person for you! Bowl name is biglaw offer - see you there!