Not really a concern rn that we’re all at home, but anyone else feel like they went back into the closet once they started working? I’m a senior now and very few ppl know and part of it is because I don’t want coworkers knowing more than they already know about me and the other half is that B4 are so heteronormative.....

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I feel that. Going from college to a career feels like going back to square one, which can be draining. There’s no requirement to come out to anyone and it doesn’t make you any less proud if you aren’t out at work. I wasn’t planning on coming out to a majority of my coworkers too since there isn’t a need for them to know (However, I was outed a few months ago which was a complete mess).

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Sorry to hear that, D1. That actually sounds awful but something my straight colleagues would say “what’s the big deal” about. That’s the other thing that irks me, since generally ppl that work at big 4 are younger they all think of themselves as socially liberal and accepting, but some of the things the say make me feel like they wouldn’t even understand the concept of there being more than 2 genders.

It’s whatever, I just know I don’t want to be the one defending my opinions 100% of the time so I rather just stay quiet and ignore it.

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And it’s not the in the sense of “I’m scared if people find out” but more so that I’m not out and proud like I was in college

Well I can’t stand my colleagues at EY so I don’t need them to know anymore about me than they must. I don’t know where you sit but when your coworkers are on par with the intellect of baboons, I think my sexual orientation is the least of their concerns. My teammates are nasty, yet some can barely hold a pencil properly. Go figure.

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The world is heteronormative! At least Big4 is generally very accepting...

@EY1, what crack pipe are you smoking from?? I work with a bunch of nasty badgers who don’t realize the kool aid with laced with cyanide. Is this the same EY??? Pass the pills please!!

I felt the same way when I first started working Going into this career I was so proud and very out (still am) but I did have to reserve back some of my personality so that i wouldn’t fall into a stereotypical bucket since in my office, I was the only person who was LGBTQ. In a way I felt like anything I did was going to reflect on the community. However, I will also say that I am very comfortable with my coworkers now and it mainly had to do with one of the new seniors that we hired back in 2018. He was such a huge ally and I get very comfortable around him and it really allowed me to bring more of myself into the office space as I was in college!

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