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Yeah, your spouse isn't complaining about your "work". What they are actually trying to say to you is that they want more time and attention from you. This person didn't marry you to feel alone in the marriage. They married you so you could build a life together and sounds like you've got zero time to do that with them...
@EY, please don't think for 1 second I haven't been where you are and I managed to pull it back! But the way you framed your response is a perfect example of you putting all the pressure on you - especially your last paragraph.
I hope you manage to find a way to be kinder to yourself! Wishing you luck 🙂
If the marriage is worth fighting for listen to your spouse. Try to make some adjustments.
100% you'll likely not find someone who doesn't have any complaints or desires for greater connection at times. That's a normal relationship issue. Your wife is asking for you to prioritize her. You can do that even with a busy work schedule if you focus on figuring out her love language and making a few small extra efforts. Not worth it to go back to the drawing board with dating if you ask me
Try to balance work.
If your partner is seeking attention, you should give it. I don't want to imply that you should not work but make sure that you are married to a person not your job.
You just need to absorb the fact that jobs are invented for survival. Not the other way around.
Being a man myself I know what it takes to be a provider but the partner is the one for whom you are working so think and relax.
So if although you are working late on weekdays, make sure you compensate that on weekends.
If you are extremely ambitious and the inclination is towards work not marriage, you should not have a commitment to any partner.
Take a break from your work and figure out what's essential. Talk with your partner and talk about how you'll distribute your time between her and your work.
Figure out a way.
2 alimony checks make you tough to date. Even if you hit MD.
You need to assess what is important to you. One of my personal deal breakers is feeing alone in a marriage. I’d rather be single than being married and feeling alone. If the marriage is important to you work less. Are you working more for a particular reason like being deep in depth? If so, work out a plan with your partner to pay it off and to note it’s temporary. If you are just working extra for wealth accumulation sake then you need to find a way to balance both.
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I just married someone who thinks about work like I do. We both at times need to prioritize our work.
Hell, my wife is in another country for the month.
She is awesome, and we love and miss each other.
One simple question, is your wife and relationship a priority that you actually think about and a daily basis? As others have said, it’s possible she feels alone while in a relationship. No one can tell you what the right balance is other than what you and your wife talk about and agree on. She is telling you she needs something different from you. Until you address this head on, you will continue to have fights until she leaves. Communication is key in any relationship, and definitely is here if you want to salvage your marriage.