Ooo I guess it's hot take Tuesday! How many of you think this is true - the 'black wife effect'? Do you say that with experience or because you've seen this kind of couple work? Linking this article in the comments in case anyone wants to read it!

why do i struggle when my s/o isn’t texting me? ik they’re not cheating on me, ik they still love me, all that jazz.

but for some reason i’m not at peace when they take some time to themselves.

any tips or advice?

Has anyone cheated on their partner, felt horrible from the guilt, confessed to them and then managed to still save the relationship? Or is cheating something no one gets over ever?

I find it hard to keep it together at school. I was in an abusive relationship that finally lead me to emptiness and emotional trying times. I keep things bottled up about school and home.

this baby next to me kept smiling at me every time she woke me up from my sleep in the plane. I just couldn't get mad at her innocent smiley face. 😀 #littlethingsinlife

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

Stupid Question- We have been thinking for IVF and trying to understand with this process, is there any difference in the health and life of the child as compared to a child born without IVF. I did ask this with our doctor and he said casually its all same. This is not to question any doctor but just to really understand what is going to be different with the kid. This is not very old technology and not much studies as well.

So much baggage brought into the relationship. 2 years in and just discovered a whole lot more. Its been mentally extremely difficult and it’s changed me as a person. Just venting but feel hopeless and I know my SO is suffering. Wish there was a solution but I’m losing hope

I deeply miss my ex. The breakup was initiated by me 5 years ago because I was scared to commit. Since then, I’ve gotten married and have a daughter. I’m so embarrassed to admit it but I think about my ex everyday. I am so sad that I walked away from him. Life is ok now - I’m thankful for my family but my heart hurts. How do I move on?

Partners with kids and a working spouse, how do you manage? Is it realistic for both people in the relationship to work full time long term? How do you keep marriage going and career progressing?

Has the overturning of Roe v. Wade significantly impacted anyone's relationships? I lost two friends who were pro-life and on the verge of losing another. Wondering if I'm being too rigid in my perspective or if this is normal in Texas

How do i find out if I will be happier divorced or more unhappily staying married. 2 kids; 2 & 4 YO. They don’t hear the arguments after bed time and don’t understand the bruises yet but I know it’s just a matter of time. It would be so much harder not seeing my kids everyday than living with the pain, loneliness and lost friendships. But I’m tired. And so sad. Lost. So alone. Does anyone have something that turned it around? He changed? You changed so he did? Ayahuasca retreat maybe?

Two of our students were killed today in a shooting, another two are in the hospital. Last week a student was killed in a different shooting. Admin barely acknowledged. How do we help our kids?

So we waited all that time to learn that Madison and Peter are just going to give it a shot against the wishes of Peters awful Mom?

How do I get better with frustration with family (even though warranted)? Therapy?

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Is there a polite/gentle way to talk to your boyfriend about the fact that he has gained a lot of weight in the past year and needs more physical activity in his life?

I am not a very shallow person — he was already on the heavier side when we met. But when I look at photos from just a year ago, it’s clear he’s put on a lot of weight. I am worried about his health. I don’t want to overstep or make him feel insecure. Just wondering if anyone else has ever been here.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Boyfriend has seemed to be dropping a ton on me lately, even after I got bad news that my company is t doing so hot this week and layoffs are approaching. First it was that we may be moving to another state for his job, then it was that his brother may need to move in with us for a few months after he graduates

It’s just a bit overwhelming at this time and I’m not sure how to communicate through all of this being thrown at me. 3 yrs together and we were friends for many years before that.

Anyone file for divorce without a lawyer if both parties are consenting? How does it work when you don’t have any joint assets (separate bank accounts, no house) and no kids? Married <5 years

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

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Hello! I’ve previously only dated white guys. While in quarantine I’ve gone on dil mil and made an effort with brown guys on apps. Surprised to find that many live at home or visit home often in mid 20s, are not financially independent, cannot cook for themselves etc. Is this typical? Or maybe it’s just the area I live in. Sorry if this came off as offensive, it just seems to be a pattern I noticed

Which companies should I join
Impetus - 14 + bonus permanent work form home
British telecom -15+ bonus
YOE - 3yrs
Position - data engineer.

I'm currently a Scrum Master that is looking to make an exit! I have a new profound love for data! However when looking at the salary for data analytics, it appears that I would have to take a pay cut. I currently make 123k in the state of NC...any insight? Should I transition to Data Engineering instead?

I have an interview coming up for BCG but due to some personal reasons might need to push it a few weeks. What’s the likelihood the firm will be OK with pushing / is it even worth asking?

Hello Fishes,

I have a 9 years of experience in Devops and currently has 42LPA CTC. I am planing to switch now, Can I expect 30% more on this for the mid sized companies ? How is market now?

Recently received an offer for Staff Software Test Engineer for Austin. YOE :11 yrs 150K, 10-20% bonus and 15K sign on and no rsu. Can someone tell me if this is a good offer?

Hi all- new to fishbowl. Not really sure how to use and explore the app yet but I saw this bowl and figured I would introduce myself. I am a wholesaler for 401K and I am able to partner with advisors who currently uncover 401K opportunities or are looking to learn how to. Reply if you are an advisor in the NYC area and interested in learning about how to expand your business.

I am looking for a job change, I am currently working in accenture as L10 with only 5 months of experience, prior to that I have worked with Genpact and TCS with overall 8 years of experience.
Any lead in R2R for bangalore location is welcome

Hi All,

My sister is searching for a job. She is currently working as PMO in Infosys from last 2 years (she has only 2 years experience). Can someone please provide referral for PMO role in Capgemini Pune?

Thanks in advance... 😊

Hi All,

Any Management consulting role vacancy in the big 4 - work location - India (preferably bangalore, Delhi NCR, Mumbai) client location - Anywhere (preferably US)

Hey team! So I was laid off from my SDR position about a week ago. A couple months back, I had an offer for a BDR position that I ended up turning down but I really liked and connected with the manager. Is it worth it to reach out? I applied to other positions in the same company. What about reaching out to previous co workers at a different company? Not sure how to navigate this… please help. Also I’m sorry if this is the wrong bowl to post in.

I started my career in my hometown, a city with about 135k people. After 4 years was at the point where I buy a house or move to a bigger city (600k people), I went with the ‘big’ city option. I lived there for about 18 months then the pandemic hit. Since then I still have my apartment in the new city but have been staying with my family in my hometown 95% of the time. I realized I have no reason other than work to be in the new city. Now I’m considering moving back to my hometown. Cont..

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I’m 26 and have ~40k sitting in my savings account. Annual income 140k. Maxing out 401k. No debt. Planning to invest 25k but don’t know where to start. Should I get a wealth manager? What is the best way to approach this?

First year trainee here. Having the standard wobbles but generally surviving.

My question is - how can I tell if I'm doing well? More specifically, what common and avoidable mistakes (specific or general) do trainees make, and what attitude or actions impress you?

Recently overheard some associates complaining about another trainee and now I have the fear... I want to get this right. Thanks in advance.

What's the best way to approach a manager about a performance review? I've been at my company for 2 years, and I want to make sure I'm doing everything right.