Over Easter break, my 15-year-old son expressed that he didn't believe in God and wanted to stop going to church as attending services makes him feel uncomfortable now that he is an atheist. My wife and I did force him to go to Easter services and participate in dinner prayer but I am not sure how we should handle him going forward? Should we keep forcing him to church and try to get him more involved in the church or should we respect his wishes and let him find his own path?

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Atleast your son is honest. Continue to pray for your son. He might not have met Jesus at church. But he will see Jesus in you and your wife, with your words and actions. Continue to love him. You could ask him to go to church as a family and he doesn’t have to participate in anything but sit at church then leave after the service. Reach out to your friends in church and ask them to keep your son in their prayers. Prayer works. Again, just love him.

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It’s possible that this is a rebellion against you as parents. He wants emotional independence. My personal belief is that he probably needs time to explore and your forcing him would only have the affect of pushing him further away longer term. Outside of the family dinner of course that should be required. Maybe try to Engage with him the way he wants, as an adult and have a non judging and supportive, hopeful conversation?

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This is just so common unfortunately. I was so far away from God as a young adult, but found my way back eventually. I'm sure many of you have similar experiences. I agree with others it won't help anything to force him, just pray you've left a solid foundation. Keep showing him love. If he's intellectual and he wants to debate or whatnot then all the better, brush up on your apologetics and just speak as much truth into his life as you can. :) I think we do what we can but then need to trust Holy Spirit to move in their lives. 2 Tim 1:5, Ps 119:9, Proverbs 22:6, Deut 6:7 👏 🙌 💙

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Prayer and supplication!
Pray without ceasing because Satan is here to sift us like wheat. Luke 22:31

I think it’s worth understanding who is influencing your son. There are so many inroads that can muck up a young mind and so many options out there.

Had a similarly experience with my daughter. She came home and had started to discuss sexual identities that are not aligned with the word of God.

We had several discussions and found out a young male friend was influencing her at 10.

We were so naive to think we could send our kids out in the world and not be influenced by the world.

Children are vulnerable… don’t let the darkness in and pray over your son and encourage him to pray and give thanks.

Ephesians
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

As a psychologist, I believe people do things for a reason so it’s worth understanding his point of view and train him up. It’s our jobs as parents to train them through the good and the bad. Satan wants you to stand down but don’t.

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Areas or compromise can include switching to a diff church that is a better fit. Will be good to understand the “why” behind this shift

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“But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” - Jeremiah 24:15b.

As long as our children are under our roof, they will go to church every week. When they are an adult and move out, they can do as they wish.

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