Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

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Continue working 10-15 hours a week. That really helped my dad when he retired especially because his identity was very wrapped up in his career.

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I agree with this. It could be paid work or consistent volunteer work.

Have him set a hobby budget. Figure out what he can spend and really “should” spend. Maybe once he feels comfortable with a set amount, he can pick ways that are fulfilling to spend it.

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I early retired. Here are my thoughts/activities: 1) bicycling - find a local group ride to make it social. Plenty of 50-70 year old cyclists out there. It’s great for physical and mental fitness. Plenty of cycling events to have goals on the horizon. 2) volunteer with non-profit (Bike MS for example). 3) gardening and beekeeping 4) restore classic cars 5) Quest to visit all 63 designated national parks. 6) Read the entire Bible and/or do the Bible in a Year podcast. 7) Read the classics. 8) not there yet - spend lots of time with grandkids. 9) hike the Appalachian trail (in doable segments) 10) go fishing with friends and family. 11) don’t pick up drinking - it’s too easy to slip into a bad place mentally and physically, 12) mentor younger people - on FB! I hope this helps.

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My dad retired a couple of years ago and we were all really concerned about how he would occupy himself. We suggested he get a job at Home Depot or something, but he just didn’t want to. Ultimately he figured it out himself. He has a daily routine that keeps him completely occupied. Gets up, eats breakfast, reads the WSJ and NYTimes, cleans the pool, goes to the gym, eats lunch, takes a nap, reads in the afternoon, eats dinner, and hangs out with my mom. He is so happy with his routine and we are no longer worried!

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Yes. My Dad has a routine like that. He loves reading and watching the news so it keeps him busy. OP, I wouldn't worry too much. He'll figure out what to do and will fill up his time. He may just enjoy doing nothing for awhile and may need that if he's worked so much.

Gardening. Restoring things. Volunteering with veterans or at hospitals holding newborns.

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Udemy.com! Tell him to peruse the courses and take some that he’s interested in. If I was retired I would do this all day long :D

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Does he like the ocean? Maybe he can pick up boating or sailing.

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Seconding working part time. My father really was not thriving his first few years in retirement and is now a consultant. Even just 10 hours a month is something for him, keeps him sharp and happier. He also golfs

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Beekeeping, woodworking, book club, Bible study, community service, meals on wheels delivery, real estate (second career), new sport- bowling, cards, fishing,

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Classes at a community college are a good way to narrow in on interests/ feel productive. Some of them offer free tuition to retirees.

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My dad was in the same boat, he worked 10+ hours a day for 40 years. He found yard work, swimming, golfing, and taking care of animals to be the perfect mix of “work” and fun that he doesn’t feel bored

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My dad did the same. He enjoys volunteering at the humane society in the cat room and also walks dogs when it’s nice out. He took up golfing and has found some other retired friends through that.

My dad recently retired and I have the same concern. So far he’s remaining very much in his lane of staying focused on “work”, his current mission is sorting through some inheritance disputes with the extended fam… idk if it’s really solvable so I wish he would just relax instead but he doesn’t listen to me.

Some great ideas here though!

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The American Red Cross is always looking for volunteers to help after house fires, food, hurricanes, etc. The local amateur radio groups may have options as well. Really depends on what he is into. There are opportunities for volunteers in humanitarian work and technology work in a variety of groups, his county may have a volunteer coordination department as well.

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My dad was in wealth management and in retirement was asked to advise a small, local nonprofit company on their endowment investment approach. It’s been a great transition for him.

Other good options are tour guide (if he lives in a destination city), museum docent, volunteering with local at-risk kids as a mentor/homework tutor, helping homeless adults prepare for job interviews, etc.

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These are all great suggestions 😇 Keep em coming!

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