Seeking advice on how to manage a manager who is jealous of you. How can a manager from work be jealous of my personal life and have it be impacted on our work relationship? She shuts me down when I talk, talks over me if I get a chance to talk, becomes very emotional if I disagree with any working points, shuts me out of important cross-functional meetings and other negative behaviors. I do care a lot about my career and want to make positive impact in our projects. I don’t know what to do

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Recommend “48 laws of power” to you! Good luck! Entertain her and win her trust over first.

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Take this to HR!!

Why is she jealous?

Your not respecting their authority. Are you coming up with your own ideas thinking your special, or are you serving the role he needs you to be? Why are you disagreeing with a superior? They have to document your disagreement on engagements. If she actually does do that, and you are right, it’s her name anyways. Just let it go!

That’s not disrespecting authority.. she’s saying this manager doesn’t even let her share her thoughts. Regardless, as a manager, if you know they are wrong, let the person express what they think anyways and then explain after how they are incorrect and that’s how they learn. I don’t think she means she’s accusing of them being wrong. It could be a disagreement on what font size you think looks better. At that point it’s personal preference and makes neither person wrong

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How does she know so much about your personal life? You don’t go into detail about that with your managers..? To the extent of her knowing enough to disrespect you at work? Furthermore, all of the points you made sounds like she belittles you a little and just doesn’t take you serious as a lower position than her. I don’t understand why she would be going out of her way to act like that bc she knows something about you that makes her hate you that much. Unless I am missing something.. please explain further I’m not trying to attack you! :)

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